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Old 05-28-2011, 03:22 PM
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Default My reviews of 10 poly books...

...are here:


Covered there are:

Love Unlimited: The Joys and Challenges of Open Relationships, by Leonie Linssen and Stephan Wik

Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners, by Deborah Anapol

What Does Polyamory Look Like? Polydiverse Patterns of Loving and Living in Modern Polyamorous Relationships, by Mim Chapman

Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá

Polyamory in the 21st Century, by Deborah Anapol

Gaia and the New Politics of Love, by Serena Anderlini-d'Onofrio

The Ethical Slut, Second Edition, by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy

The Polyamory Handbook: A User's Guide, by Peter J. Benson

Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage, by Jenny Block

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, by Tristan Taormino

Listed in more or less reverse chronological order.


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Old 05-29-2011, 11:04 PM
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Alan, I will check out your reviews when I have time in the next few days. So, thank you. Meanwhile, off the top of your head (or anyone else's who has read these and cares to respond) do any of those books you listed, besides Opening Up (which I have), devote much to single, solo poly people? Most of the books about poly that I've found and perused at Barnes & Noble seem to focus on couples who decide to open their marriage. I do find the title Gaia and the New Politics of Love rather intriguing and will check out that review first, methinks.
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Old 05-29-2011, 11:51 PM
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> devote much to single, solo poly people?

I's say that would probably be *The Ethical Slut*.


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Old 05-30-2011, 11:20 PM
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Very interesting! Thank you!
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Old 05-31-2011, 07:27 AM
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Thanks for reading more of them and reviewing! I feel like I have a bookshelf of books (and old Loving More issues) but I know I could use another one or two tailored to my specific situation, and I'd enjoyed the reviews you'd written earlier.

I remember reading the beginning of "Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships" and being a bit put off by the sex focused "raunchy" atmosphere created in the first few pages (I want more people to be poly, but I don't want them to be scared off if they are vanilla-ish, so would I freak people out by recommending it with all the great advice and checklists it has if they can't get past the first chapter?!?!?!?)

Look forward to reading the new reviews tomorrow!
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Old 06-26-2011, 02:55 PM
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Default Lots more reading to do... Whew!!

Just want to say thank you for the book recomendations and the conversation. After leaving my long-term marriage in 2007 I've been glancing at Poly as a possibility. Being a Pagan Esoteric Spiritualist, Sociologist, and a healer I am very interested in continuing my studies on "Sacred Sexuality," with the inclusion of what Polyamory has to offer. These books (and links) will add much to my efforts... Thank you and Blessed Be.
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Old 07-10-2011, 01:17 AM
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I don't know much about this book, i just started reading but it seems pretty kind hearted so far.
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Old 09-14-2011, 10:49 PM
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I'm reading a new book: The Art and Etiquette of Polyamory: a Hands-on Guide to Open Sexual Relationships by Francoise Simpere. The English language version is a 2011 copyright and I think it's original date in France is 2007.

So far, so good. But I can definitely see the French cultural influence. I'll be back when I'm done to let you know what I think. I'd like to know what others think about it, too.

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'Cause it's not enough just to stand outside the fire
Life is not tried, it is merely survived
When you're standing outside the fire"
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Old 11-05-2011, 01:29 AM
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Default My favorite poly book

My absolute favorite poly book has to be "What Does Polyamory Look Like?" by Mim Chapman (first referenced in Alan7388's top-10 list in this thread).

This book was instrumental in helping me recognize and broaden my understanding of various different types of poly relationships, from pair-based relationships to inwardly-focused groups, chains (V,N,W,...,S), etc. It's not an "apologetics"-style of book, i.e. it's not trying to justify or rationalize polyamory. Rather, it's focused on giving a practical advise to people that are already poly but trying to understand what types of relationships suit them best.

For me, it was the right book at the right time. It also helped me and my wife to draft our very first "poly agreement", and to do a MUCH BETTER job at it than we would have otherwise! While many of the concepts may be obvious to those that have been poly for many years, I highly recommend it to anyone that considers themselves relatively new to polyamory (like me).
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Old 11-19-2011, 07:12 AM
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Originally Posted by zinc View Post
As a result, humans became the most sexual animal on the planet.
I think Bonobos have got us beat.
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