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Old 05-25-2011, 07:41 PM
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Smile Question on which is easier?

Is it easier being a single looking for a couple or a couple looking for a third. Since I am single I have the view of that a least the couple have each other to support each other. Can you give me different views?
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Old 05-25-2011, 09:39 PM
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It is as easy or as hard, as YOU make it. Wether that 'YOU' is a collective-you, or a single-you.

Those who know themselves, on a basic level, and don`t get caught up in the specifics of 'happiness'..tend to keep a open mind.

A open mind, = a open soul. Allowing opportunities, and experiences to enter our lives, however it may happen.

There are singles who struggle, there are couples who struggle. No one has a edge,...just different struggles.

Don`t get caught up in the grass being greener, on the other side. It rarely ever is.
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Old 05-25-2011, 10:00 PM
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Is it easier being a single looking for a couple or a couple looking for a third. Since I am single I have the view of that a least the couple have each other to support each other. Can you give me different views?
Neither is easier. It depends on the people involved.

Being a couple doesn't naturally make it easier. Some people can offset the pressure by leaning on their partners, others can't.

In the end, for most people... poly isn't easy..

You do have an advantage in your searching though. There are many... many.. more couples looking for singles than visa versa.
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Old 05-25-2011, 11:01 PM
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Default Thank you for your answers.

I was trying to get a better understanding of both sides of the coin.
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Old 05-26-2011, 12:31 AM
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I was trying to get a better understanding of both sides of the coin.
Then you read. Lots of threads and experiences to choose from.
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try a tag search for "unicorns" or "secondary" there should be some good reads there.
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Old 05-27-2011, 04:59 PM
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I find it very difficult to find a singe bi female to join my husband and I. We have been looking for a while but as the say SWF are unicorns
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Old 05-27-2011, 05:06 PM
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Smile I think sometimes it is location.

There are not a lot of know poly like minded people in new Brunswick Canada. I am a bi female looking for a couple.
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Old 05-27-2011, 06:19 PM
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There are not a lot of know poly like minded people in new Brunswick Canada. I am a bi female looking for a couple.
Hey, I lived in Oromocto back in 1978! ....ummmm just saying
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Old 05-27-2011, 06:32 PM
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