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Old 05-17-2011, 05:10 AM
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Ooo washington! That sounds fun! I've been to Seattle and I loved it there. The northwest is so gorgeous, all that forest. I wouldn't mind moving to Portland.

I love cooking for people too. I don't get to do it very often but it's so much fun when someone else gets to enjoy it too. These days, I just cook a big batch of whatever and then eat it for the next week.
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Old 05-18-2011, 12:48 PM
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I'm so proud of Spicy-and nervous as hell. A "crisis" came up on Mother's Day. The result of which is that Little Pea's daddy is able to move back up here. SOOOOOOO, after all of the emotional upheaval-they're coming home.
So, he lost his job?

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He was REALLY nervous about staying here (DITTO) because he doesn't want to be a "mooch". We've worked out an agreement for them to be here temporarily, to find work (not too hard here, we're not hit as bad with that as stateside) and get a place of their own.

... she comes home next Saturday.
THEN, flies back down there June 24th and she's leaving Little Pea with me......
They'll be driving up and hopefully here within 2 weeks-barring any complications.

So, I will have the baby for 2 weeks or so.... .
Has she already quit breastfeeding, or does she plan to wean by then?
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Old 05-19-2011, 02:51 AM
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No, he didn't lose his job, lost his roommate who got sent to Afghanistan.

I'm honestly not sure if she's still breastfeeding or not. But, she's going to have to ween him by then if she wants me to keep him for 2-4 weeks.
I haven't put a whole lot of effort into getting details-because she's SO MUCH easier to talk to in person than by text (she can't talk on the phone out of Alaska or she's on roaming) and she'll be here Saturday.
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Old 05-19-2011, 02:52 AM
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BLECH-sick of clouds!

My toes are cold and I have socks AND shoes on! Just looking at them makes me feel shivery!

Otherwise-things are going ok.

I finished 11 out of 15 assignments due in by Saturday, in my English111 class. Maca has the little one right now, so I'm getting ready to work on some more school work.
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Old 05-19-2011, 04:12 AM
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No, he didn't lose his job, lost his roommate who got sent to Afghanistan.

I'm honestly not sure if she's still breastfeeding or not. But, she's going to have to ween him by then if she wants me to keep him for 2-4 weeks.
I haven't put a whole lot of effort into getting details...
Ahhh, it would break my heart to leave my infant for 2 to 4 weeks. I'm sure you'll do a great job taking care of the baby, but gosh, she's so young.
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Mag, I can't even IMAGINE leaving my infant for so long, so early.... hell, so long. I wasn't apart for so long from any of mine before they were two.

BUT-I think for her, it's a matter of complete trust. She and I, well, it was just the two of us for 6 years before I married Maca. We have a different bond than just mother/daughter.

Ironically-I have a trip planned for two weeks later this year and then the two months with Maca next year. I told Maca not long ago, that I'd rather buy her a plane ticket to come up and babysit while GG's at work, than leave the kids with someone else while he's at work and we're gone.
SO, I guess the feeling is mutual.

I'm so excited that she's going to be home Saturday!! I'm sure in a week I'll be whining about babies interrupting my school work time; but for now-I'm just excited to see them again!!
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I really loathe telling someone I'm poly and then having them assume that means they have a chance.
Oh, SHIT!!!
As to your hoping that Spicy has weaned the little one by the time you're left holding the baby, have a look at this.
Happy baby-sitting, Grandmaw!
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Haha, ain't happening! After the breast reduction (from an F+ to a B-C cup) last March, there's a HIGH probability that I couldn't get enough milk even if I DID want to-which I DO NOT.
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Old 05-20-2011, 01:16 AM
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Wow, I didn't know about that. You must feel so much lighter.
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Old 05-21-2011, 12:45 AM
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Wow, I didn't know about that. You must feel so much lighter.
Unbelievably so. But, the more important part is that I have a life again.

I had a neck injury (C6-C7 disk). The fragments were pressing against my spine and cutting through the nerves to my left arm, pressing against the nerves to my right arm. The pain was so severe that I was VERY limited in what I could do at all.

Anyway-the weight of the breasts was exacerbating things. New Years Eve '09 I went in for emergency surgery on my neck. March 18th they cleared me as having made it through healthy and whole. Then, March 26th I was in surgery for the reduction. The C5-C6 disk was starting to go-they found that during the first surgery and the Dr's were adamant (not that I had an issue with it-I didn't) that the weight of the breasts was the problem that was causing my neck to fall apart.

SO-it's awesome to be lighter, able to move normally again, not on any pain meds, not in pain.
It was a 5 year long NIGHTMARE and I'm SO glad it's over!!!
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