He/She’s Just Not That Into You Quiz: 13 Questions to Ask Yourself

[Kittywitch]

I, unfortunately, had to let an SO go today because he failed most of these (he maybe got 3...). He got all upset saying that i expected too much cause he worked 9 hr days. *sighs*

[NeonKaos]

Originally Posted by nycindie

Yeah, he does but, not really. What the?

I thought it was funny because of that ^ and because "not... wanting to date others" is not "really" poly, too.

[redpepper]

I will play too, I love shit like this!

1. Eager to see you and reluctant to leave Mono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-1
2. Wants regular consistent contact, asks for datesMono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-0
3. Interested in you and your lifeMono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-1
4. Wants to be helpfulMono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-1
5. Is verbally and physically affectionateMono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-0
6. Wants to be romantic and sexual with youMono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-1
7. Texts, emails or calls regularlyMono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-0
8. Acts like you are very special; doesn’t really want to date othersMono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-1
9. If you are dating other men–willing to hang in thereMono-0, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-1
10. Becoming more attentive and loving over timeMono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-0
11. Becoming more open to sharing his feelings and thoughtsMono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-1
12. Becoming more open to sharing his living spaceMono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-0
13. Becoming more open to sharing his social life with friends and family members.Mono-1, PN-1, Derby-1, Leo-0

"If your man has a score of 4 or less, it probably indicates that he is just not that into you. If he gets 5-10 points the dude may have possibilities. Eleven (11) or more means he just may be the One. Look for more of these qualities over time to make a clearer assessment."

Mono-12
PN-13
Derby-13
Leo-7

well I seem to have three that are "the one" and one that might have possibilities.

[redpepper]

I think I could change my #9 where Mono is concerned if I think about it from the authors likely approach of monogamy. I think they are assuming that the "waiting" is until I am done with them all so as to be exclusive. Mono might see it that way I suppose. Check for that one in that case.

[Erin]

WOW! So my original thread got edited by someone not me. But it has also stirred some unintentional controversary with some. Sorry. I'd delete this threat but I don't have those types of powers here!

Boo on Erin!!!

[Ivy]

I thought it was helpful. Sure, it was geared toward a very traditional monogamous mindset, but the gist of it was helpful for gauging any relationship with something like objectivity. I don't think polyamorous relationships are so wildly different that an entirely different standard of evaluation is necessary.

[redpepper]

Originally Posted by Erin

WOW! So my original thread got edited by someone not me. But it has also stirred some unintentional controversary with some. Sorry. I'd delete this threat but I don't have those types of powers here!

Boo on Erin!!!

No worries. There is no reason to delete. The link has everything in it that was taken out as far as I can see. I thought it was interesting and very helpful actually. Thanks. No boos on you.

[nycindie]

I would guess it was a question of copyright. Always better to just include a link rather than copy and paste an entire article on any message board, unless you have permission by the author to do so.

[opalescent]

Hmmm. Oil Man works a lot of jobs and while we talk and text almost everyday, including fun sexy chat, I need physical interactions. I'm not someone that is satisfied with sexy text/chat or phone sex.

It's ok with me if I only see him every few months (his work schedule is that nuts) but I need to talk with him about scheduling dates in advance. The not sure when he's free thing is making me a bit irritable. If that doesn't work, maybe time to cut him loose.

1. Eager to see you and reluctant to leave Beloved 1, SW, 1, Oil Man 0
2. Wants regular consistent contact, asks for dates Beloved 1, SW, 1, Oil Man 0
3. Interested in you and your life Beloved 1, SW, 1, Oil Man 0
4. Wants to be helpful Beloved 1, SW .5, Oil Man 0
5. Is verbally and physically affectionate Beloved 1, SW 1, Oil Man 1
6. Wants to be romantic and sexual with you Beloved 1, SW, 1, Oil Man .5
7. Texts, emails or calls regularly Beloved 1, SW, 1, Oil Man 1
8. Acts like you are very special; doesn’t really want to date others Beloved 1, SW 0, Oil Man 0
9. If you are dating other men–willing to hang in there Beloved 1, SW, 0, Oil Man 0
10. Becoming more attentive and loving over time Beloved 1, SW, 1, Oil Man 0
11. Becoming more open to sharing his feelings and thoughts Beloved 1, SW, 1, Oil Man 0
12. Becoming more open to sharing his living space Beloved 1, SW, 0, Oil Man 0
13. Becoming more open to sharing his social life with friends and family members. Beloved 1, SW, .5, Oil Man 0 - SW and I share friends and enjoy meeting each other friends.

Score: Beloved 13, SW 8 Oil Man 2.5

[SourGirl]

It`s interesting, if you flip it around, and see where you rate, on how 'into' other`s you are.....