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Old 05-05-2011, 02:04 PM
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That sounds yucky all around. How uncomfortable.

How do I get me a domestic slave?.... hmmmmm.....
You know they might just break all the dishes to get a spanking
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Old 05-05-2011, 10:54 PM
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You know they might just break all the dishes to get a spanking
no more than I break. Its glasses I break actually. Maybe I could give someone a spanking evertime *I* break a dish!
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Old 05-06-2011, 04:31 PM
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no more than I break. Its glasses I break actually. Maybe I could give someone a spanking evertime *I* break a dish!
I wouldn't have any ass left
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Old 05-06-2011, 05:55 PM
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That's OK, you've got a back, belly and legs, don't you?

When my kids were little, I switched over to jelly and spaghetti sauce jars for drinking glasses. They don't break easy. Helpful hint.
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That's OK, you've got a back, .
Oh, my favourite!
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Old 05-22-2011, 09:27 PM
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WOW... I can't believe this thread has been around over a year and I missed it! I just spent two hours reading through all 42 pages!

Lots of things stuck out to me (loved post #170) so I will address a few. Someone (I think it was RedPepper) mentioned the expense of toys. If you can think creatively, making low cost toys out of every day items you may already have will save a lot. For instance, I recently saw a flogger made entirely of duct tape.

Someone else mentioned the fear/apprehension of "losing themselves" in submission. Honestly, that was a big concern for me as well. It was a discussion my Dom and I visited and revisited over and over. A big help in ensuring this does not happen is adapting the contract details to the personality of the sub, so he/she can still be themselves and still please their dominant. Cookie cutter contracts just set a sub up for failure, and any good dominant wants their sub to succeed.

Another point I want to add my two cents to: someone mentioned that once a person submits, they no longer have any rights. I couldn't disagree more. Submission is a GIFT. A slave/sub has the right to revoke that gift at any time. We have the right to have our thoughts heard and addressed.
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Old 05-22-2011, 11:36 PM
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Another point I want to add my two cents to: someone mentioned that once a person submits, they no longer have any rights. I couldn't disagree more. Submission is a GIFT. A slave/sub has the right to revoke that gift at any time. We have the right to have our thoughts heard and addressed.
I agree! I identify as a dominant. And to me, the submissive's right to retract their submission at any time is the most important rule of the whole arrangement.

If I had a submissive who couldn't retract their submission, then I would feel like a worthless Domme.

What kind of worthless, ugly wretch has to FORCE the love and submission of another?

If I cannot woo and win the submission, then I don't deserve it.

So I love your point here!
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Okay, Mono posted this on RP's thread and it got me wondering...
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I admit, if he was allowed to kiss any higher than your shoe it would have a been a problem
This comment just made me curious. Is it really a turn-on sexually to have people kiss your shoes? I mean, I could understand it as a playful, power trip sort of fun game, but I know for sure I wouldn't feel any sort of arousal from someone kissing or licking my shoe (I would be too worried about whether it was clean or something like that). Or is sexual arousal not what D/s is all about?
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Old 07-18-2011, 03:52 PM
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Okay, Mono posted this on RP's thread and it got me wondering...


This comment just made me curious. Is it really a turn-on sexually to have people kiss your shoes? I mean, I could understand it as a playful, power trip sort of fun game, but I know for sure I wouldn't feel any sort of arousal from someone kissing my shoe (I would be worried about whether it was clean or something like that). Or is sexual arousal not what D/s is all about?
Its the control.. and act of domination and.. the willingness of the sub..

There is also, for some, the size difference. Might be kind of empowering to have a big strong man licking your boots if you are small 5'4.. for example
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Old 07-18-2011, 03:54 PM
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Some people are sexually turned-on by feet or footwear. Ever heard of something called a "fetish"? That's when sexual arousal is derived from something that is not typically perceived as such.

More likely, it's the SUB who gets turned on by licking someone else's shoes.
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