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Old 09-30-2009, 06:58 PM
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That makes success all the more sweeter though.
Haha xD usually it does yeah. It also makes things hurt more :/
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Old 09-30-2009, 10:03 PM
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Yeah, it sucks though. Ive gotten used to disappointment though, its the only thing ive ever known haha.
Do you not have a wonderful girlfriend that you're exploring open relationships with? That's a hell of a lot more than a lot of people have...
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Old 09-30-2009, 10:18 PM
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Do you not have a wonderful girlfriend that you're exploring open relationships with? That's a hell of a lot more than a lot of people have...
Heh, i also grew up being beat to hell by my father and raised in crackhouses by my mother. Forced to be a man when i was 7 and take care of her while doing my schoolwork and working everyday. Id say the world owes me a girl like i have.
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The world owes a lot to a lot of people. There are lots of stories with lots of pain. Unfortunately, that's not how the world tends to see it.
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Old 09-30-2009, 11:22 PM
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The world owes a lot to a lot of people. There are lots of stories with lots of pain. Unfortunately, that's not how the world tends to see it.

Whoot! The glass ain't half-empty; it's ALL empty.

You know what I heard about banging your head against a wall?

It feels SO GOOD when you stop.
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Old 10-01-2009, 12:19 AM
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You know what I heard about banging your head against a wall?

It feels SO GOOD when you stop.

Amen!!!
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Old 10-01-2009, 02:35 AM
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Whoot! The glass ain't half-empty; it's ALL empty.

You know what I heard about banging your head against a wall?

It feels SO GOOD when you stop.
Yeah well banging your head against the wall makes the world go away.
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Old 10-02-2009, 05:48 AM
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Yeah well banging your head against the wall makes the word go away.
did you mean "world" cause I'm trying to think what "word?" "victim," "martyr," "entitled?" I hope these are the words you are trying to bang out of your head.

We all had/have our shit to deal with. Part of being a grown up is to get over it, use what we have learned and teach others that we can achieve anything. Shit, show OURSELVES we can do anything!

There is no time in life to feel sorry for ourselves because of what others have "done" to us... what matters is what we "do" to ourselves and others.

Yup, you are a lucky man to have such a woman in your life, but if you start thinking you are "entitled!" to her, you won't have her anymore.... provided she has any head on her shoulders that is.
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Old 10-02-2009, 01:16 PM
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did you mean "world" cause I'm trying to think what "word?" "victim," "martyr," "entitled?" I hope these are the words you are trying to bang out of your head.

We all had/have our shit to deal with. Part of being a grown up is to get over it, use what we have learned and teach others that we can achieve anything. Shit, show OURSELVES we can do anything!

There is no time in life to feel sorry for ourselves because of what others have "done" to us... what matters is what we "do" to ourselves and others.

Yup, you are a lucky man to have such a woman in your life, but if you start thinking you are "entitled!" to her, you won't have her anymore.... provided she has any head on her shoulders that is.
Tell it like it is, Pep!
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Old 10-02-2009, 04:25 PM
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We can only blame others for our issues and shit and baggage for so long. Once we reach the age of reason, that's it on free passes. It's not "but my parents did...blah blah". It's "I choose to keep reliving what my parents did and leaking it all over my life". I was having this conversation with my father this morning.

A little no holds barred back story on me? I was physically abused by my dad for years. He sent me to the hospital more than once. I was molested by a relative that the family covered up for and still does. When my bipolar started becoming impossible to handle as a teen I was neglected, ignored, and pretty much driven to suicidal attempts by family members who flat out told me I was nothing but an insane burden. I dated a guy who raped and beat me and threatened my younger siblings should I ever tell on him, whom my parents loved and treated me badly for when I finally rid myself of him. I was drugged and date raped by one of my best friends after 10 years of friendship. I went through alcoholism is college and drug use even younger (nothing harder than pot and ecstasy). I practically raised my siblings because my parents were off living their lives because they felt entitled to. So...am I "entitled" to have whatever I want now? Absolutely not!

I sought my own therapy at 14 to ease the bipolar issues. I quit drinking and drugs cold turkey on my own because I didn't want to become those who abused me. I got rid of (most) the negative people in my life on my own and sought out more positive relations, and spent many lonely depressed years doing so because it was hard changing my life. I did my best with my siblings because I had to and THEY needed me even if I didn't WANT to be the one needed. I work my ass off communicating and loving my husband and my children and not turning into the negative hateful person I could have become. I also work my ass off rebuilding a relationship with my parents now, as an adult, with the understanding they will never take responsibility for what I've been through and will probably never change. Because all I can change is myself.

I don't know where this rant is going, except to say the world doesn't owe ANYONE ANYTHING. No one is ENTITLED nor should they feel that way. All you do when feeling the world owes you is to waste time and energy you could be using to pursue what it is you want. So, no more head banging. Bandage that wound up and go on with your life. We all carry baggage. It's up to you whether you're going to put it down and move on.
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