Originally Posted by BlackUnicorn
Number one reason for me is to make sure my newly-acquired metamour knows that I exist. At the same time, I wish to discuss boundaries, assess comfort levels and learn something new about my partner by seeing with who else they have chosen to share their lives with. Of course, if the starts are aligned just so, I don't mind to gauge possible new dating opportunities, either
I can understand accessing the comfort levels and leaning something new, but I don't discuss boundaries with my wife boyfriend. That is her relationship; I let her set the boundaries. I do not interfere in her relationship, if she asks my opinion I will give it that’s about it. I do not treat her BF as a secondary, he is monogamous with my wife and so am I.