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Old 05-01-2011, 02:01 PM
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Default How to handle this?

Ok, so LT and I posted an ad on craigslist looking for another cpl....We got a few responses from couples, and a LOT of responses from single guys just wanting to fuck LT. LOL They got deleted, and most of the cpls did too. HOWEVER, we DID respond to one cpl. We met them one day for coffee at Starbucks. We all sat, in the sun, for 4 hours talking. LT and I explained to them, that we desired a sexual relationship with them as well as a more mental one. They said that was what they were looking for also. They assured us that there were no jealousy issues.

They were nice enough, and easy-ish to talk to. So LT and I scheduled a second "date" with them. They bailed last minute. Citing the male's insecurities....down there. Anyway, LT and I talked to them, and tried to re-assure them that wasn't an issue, as we are built the way we are built and that we liked them for who they were so far, not just physically.

We scheduled for another day. This time, we decided to go for a motorcycle ride. It was enjoyable. We all joked and had a good time. Nothing sexual happened at all. It was still VERY enjoyable.

So, now we are up to speed....Well, last night, we went over to their place, and LT gave the male a professional massage. Now, while she did that, I sat on the couch talking with the female half, in the front room. Things were going well. Then she and I got into a (fully clothed) pillow fight. We were laughing and having a good time. Well, the male half didn't like that apparently, and told me later that I needed to slow down, and that jealousy hit him.

He actually took me outside to tell me this. While he and I were outside, the wife asked my wife is we were seeing anyone else and said they thought that we were exclusive when dating a couple. LT explained to her that we usually ARE Exclusive when dating a couple, but that we didn't feel we were in a "relationship" with them yet.

We are thinking we just want to keep it a friendship if that with them. So...How do we tell them this? We have a suspicion that they are flagging our ads on Craigslist on a regular basis. So they are somewhat stalker-ish.
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