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Old 04-28-2011, 03:57 PM
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Default We've got different needs for communicating

I think him and I have totally different communcation styles and needs. He doesn't really tell me much about what he's thinking, feeling and wanting and either expects that I'm a mind reader, or that I just don't have the need to know.

At this stage, I'm questioning him a lot on a lot of different needs and just trying to wrap my head around it all. Yesterday I was kind of pushing for him to go meet and just get it out of the way, but he said he wasn't going to and didn't think he wanted to meet her any more. I asked him if he was going to stop talking to her, and he said "pretty much". So, I left it at at that.

He comes home last night from a buddies house, and after we talk for a little bit and eat, he tells me he's still talking to her. I just said, oh ok and left it at that. This morning after I had my thoughts collected, I asked him about what he said last night and what changed his mind.

That's when he flew off the handle at me, told me that "she's" all I talk about and that he doesn't know what the fuck he wants or what he wants to do or if he wants to meet her still. Said that my constant questioning has become a problem and asked me do I really need to know every conversation, every little move he is making. Said my questioning is whats turning him off and making him lose the desire for this and making him start to not like me very much right now.

So, I didn't respond, I just calmly walked out of the room because I didn't want to cause a fight. He went to work and I don't plan of texting him or calling him at all today, because honestly I'm pretty hurt at how he blew up at me and feel that I should be able to question as much as I want.

So, obviously we've got different levels of communication needs and I'm starting to feel like if he can't handle all of my questions and wanting to stay in constant communication about the progress of things, then I don't know if I can do this or what this means for our relationship... Actually, right about now, I'm pretty upset and wondering why I've even thrown us into this because it just might destroy us.


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