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Old 04-11-2011, 08:15 AM
PolyWolf PolyWolf is offline
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Default Just a Polygirl looking for her niche


I'm Ashley (20) from Fruita, Colorado.

I'm a bisexual submissive BBW and experienced in the Polyamorous world. I'm single at the moment, and, like my title says, wanting to find my niche. Looking for an older couple, older and more experienced.

I've found poly relationships to be very rewarding and look forward to finding people I can feel comfortable with and share my life with.

Hope to make some understanding friends and find a few long-term partners.

Thanks for reading!


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Old 04-11-2011, 09:26 AM
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Default Woot, how come I haven't found this already?

So I am Blackie, going on my 23rd year of life. I study Social Sciences but took a break from school in favor of full-time caring for my family - my mum who has cancer and my live-in girlie who is bipolar.

I am a crazy dog lady and trying to adjust to life as a bunny co-parent atm. I work with members of the learning disabilities community. I identify as the kind of feminist your mum warned you about, and thus issues of sex work activism, violence against women and young women's issues are close to my heart as well.

Lately I have absurd amounts of free time I don't know quite what to do with. I do experiment with yoga, rpgs and learning new languages as possible cushions to block me from the futility of my current existence . I am fluent, besides my native Finnish, in English and Swedish, and conversational in German and Estonian. All other languages I dabble with are in elementary stages as yet.

I am a born-again Christian Quaker and vote environmental. Lately I've read a lot on Hindu/Buddhist philosophy. I have a male sweetheart who is the hinge of a vee I hope will develop some point soon, and am in the first tentative stages of a F-F-M-vee/possible triad with kids. I adore children, btw, and am really psyched about a friend's baby project, hoping to be able to offer her support since she is atm a single mum.

Oh, and I am female, almost lesbian and 5'9'' to boot. I am always open to exploring new connections with whoever comes my way but although not being exactly shy, I have hard-of-hearing and prefer talking to people online as opposed to night-clubs or huge social gatherings.
Me: bi female in my twenties
Dating: Moonlightrunner
Metamour: Windflower

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Old 04-13-2011, 06:22 PM
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Stargazer23, female, bi-curious, live on the Gulf Coast in semi-large, conservative city.

I'm not using my real name to protect myself and others.

New to poly and just "came out" to myself about four years ago with the help of a friend and "mentor" I call "Rockstar."

I'm working my way out of a marriage to a man who can not accept me and with whom things have become abusive and mistrustful, despite my attempts at honesty. This is a complex and heartwrenching divorce--I still love this man a lot and at one point, considered him my Best Friend. We had a good thing for a while but the reality of my identity put me in the awful position of choosing between "rocking the boat" or cheating.

All of my needs simply can not be satisfied for life by one person. I don't even find that concept to be reasonable anymore.

I have a son not of this marriage and a need to be pragmatic, smart, clean and discreet.

I want to find a primary with whom I can have a secure, open, committed, safe relationship. I would like to eventually have another child or adopt with such person.

I am libertarian (lowercase L). I value respect for liberty above all else. I prefer honesty to lies but lies to oppression. Don't make me choose.

I have enough love in my heart for the entire world and I don't think I could live with someone who didn't as well.
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Old 04-16-2011, 05:17 AM
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The name's Stu.

Hailing from Parkville/Baltimore MD. 29, primarily straight (I guess I'm what the kids are calling "heteroflexible")

I'm completely new to poly, and am really just here to see if this is the right choice for me.

As far as what I'm all about...

I work in the repairs shop for Jarred's The Galleria of Jewelry. My passions include music (the heavier, the better), literature, film, and pretty much anything that can grab ahold of my attention span. I'm a devout (lmao) Atheist. I've got a bit of a morbid and sarcastic sense of humor, and I try not to take myself too seriously. Ya really can't laugh at anything until ya can laugh at yourself.
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Old 04-19-2011, 05:32 AM
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I'm MorningTwilight, a straight forty-something living in Texas with my wife of nearly two decades. Like so many, I was raised to believe in the fairy tale of "meet a girl and live happily ever after." I've had various crushes over that time period, and have repressed my feelings fiercely, not realizing that there was any other honorable alternative to beating myself up with guilt over my feelings, despite the fact that I have never so much as kissed another woman in the entire time my wife and I have been together. I've grown to resent the notion of monogamy, but I have thus far not had the courage to "come out" to my wife (and my, that sounds pretentious to me, but I think it's accurate) because the thought of dishing out the hurt and confusion that goes with that to someone whom I love so much, and who has been so very good to me, just crushes me.

Two years ago, I fell hard for a woman I work with. I've not told her about it, nor have I acted on it in any way (see "beating myself up with guilt," above), and I've not told my wife either (see "dishing out hurt and confusion," above). I realize that it's a messed-up emotional situation, and there's no guarantee of any kind that even if I successfully negotiate polyamory with my wife that my colleague would go for it. Still and all, I've come to the realization that I should stop beating myself up--one cannot control what one feels; one can only control what one does about it, and I think that I've not done anything dishonorable to date. I also think that I should stop living the lie that I can deal with monogamy for the rest of my life. The woman at work might not ever happen, but I'll certainly meet others as life progresses, and I hate, hate, hate the feeling of having to hold wonderful women at arm's length out of fear of having a friendship that "leads to something else."

I'm reading Tristan Taormino's book, Opening Up, in the hopes that seeing how others have succeeded might give me some courage. I'd be very grateful to be pointed to a thread about (formerly) monogamous couples who have faced the same fears I'm facing, and who have successfully had "the discussion" without it all going to pieces.

Anyway, it's good to be able to tell someone. Thank you.

(And no, I have no intention of an "OK for me but not for thee" arrangement, nor do I have any inclination to push her where she doesn't want to go, just in case anyone should get that impression. I don't want to lose my marriage, but I don't think I can pretend anymore, either.)
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Old 04-22-2011, 06:05 PM
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i'm from the united states, living in Finland for the past 6 years. in an open relationship which happens to be a marriage, but don't know anyone in this country who doesn't look down upon such arrangements and i'm not so good at meeting new people.

i'm a social scientist, both studying and working as a research assistant. just finished my master's degree and will start my PhD studies in august.

i'm 42 years old and have dated both women and men.

i am a music fanatic, obsessed with all sorts of styles but my background is in punk and rock. but i also listen to 'soft' music.

i am sweet and a good friend, but also introverted.

oh, and i'm female at least as far as my sex organs go. but androgynous as well.

currently bored and spend too much time online.
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Old 04-24-2011, 04:54 AM
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I'm fairly new to polyamory, maybe I could be considered poly-curious, so I'm here to learn. I've had little exposure to the polyamorous lifestyle - some experience among new friends and I've been reading a book called The Ethical Slut which has been making a lot of sense to me.

I'm 26, bi-sexual and living in New England.

I love art and music, though I have little talent to create my own. I also love learning, and often take any excuse to wax philosophical, though I've given up serious academic pursuits for the time being, until I can be certain what I want to do with my life. Sometimes I wonder if I've learned more in my time away from school. I'm just beginning to explore a new-found love of physical activity. As a child, I had no interest in sports, and I'm still not a competitive person, but I could easily get addicted to what some call a "runner's high". I'm looking forward to good weather for hiking this spring and summer. I feel most at peace in a natural setting.

Currently, I have one steady partner with whom I have a friends-with-benefits style relationship. I have occasional hook-ups with others as well, both outside of and with the aforementioned partner. I've enjoyed threesomes and am interested in group sex, though sometimes I prefer to focus my energies on just one person and vice-versa. I currently do not have any interest in being in a relationship with an established couple. I don't want to be anyone's side-dish, or have my needs be considered second-to or less-than that of anyone else. Maybe as I learn more about the polyamorous lifestyle, I'll change this stance, who knows?
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Old 04-25-2011, 09:14 PM
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My name is Minxxa. I'm in my forties, married to my husband Raven. I've been non-monogamous in general for 15 years or so, though I've gone back and forth between just being "open" to being more "poly". My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 4. We've done a lot of work defining what we are to each other and are still working on management of other relationships, but communication is good and it's a process.

My husband currently has a longer term girlfriend who he sees once or twice a year (as time permits for them both), other relationships tend to be shorter term and infrequent as he's been gone for long periods of time over the past few years (he's in the military).

I haven't dated anyone else in quite a long time. For a few years I had declining health due to endocrine disorder issues, which made me exhausted and stressed-- not really conducive to dating! I've spent the last three years getting healthier (which I am and is still in progress), and going back to school for my Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology. So again, my time is pretty filled up and dating (or time to go places to meet people) is limited. Someday!

Anyway, I thought I'd better post some type of intro if I'm going to post on here occasionally. I like to read through threads to get other perspectives and ideas from other people.
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Old 04-29-2011, 12:39 PM
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Default West Yorkshire Bi Guy

Hi - my name's Dave I am in an open relationship with a guy, we celebrate 10 years this year. I have had a few casual sexual encounters with women over the last decade but I feel that I need more than just a brief encounter. I am bisexual, my partner understands but I can't seem to meet a woman that will understand that I am in a "Gay" relationship. I am wanting to meet a bi or straight woman for regular meets for fun, friendship and sex. Anyone out there? ( Ok not just anyone, someone that I am compatible with - see my profile) Leeds, UK.
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Old 05-02-2011, 06:52 AM
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Fascinated by the stories I've been reading here of other relationships...the forms they take vary so widely!

Anyway, I'm Seven, in my thirties, female, kinda pansexual I guess, although I identify as straight probably 90% of the time. Not really new to the concept of being poly as I was head over heels for the longest time over a guy who was poly. I was so willing to go there for him. It turned out that he wasn't willing to let me in, so I had to let him go.

These days, I'm actively poly as I'm dating two amazing men and exploring a same sex relationship with an incredible woman...who just happens to be the "primary" of one of my boyfriends, and is in a newish relationship with the other boyfriend. Whee!

I am also kinky, agnostic, and nerdy.
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