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Old 04-22-2011, 04:20 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Originally Posted by Quaternary View Post
I'm not sure who I can turn to at most of these events other than Rho, and sometimes Pi. I'm scared of dragging in mutual friends who are already tired of how Sigma is acting and don't want to have anything to do with it at all, since they're at these events for fun and this drama show is pretty pointedly the opposite of fun.
You're not quite getting this. Ignore her. You don't have to mention her and living your life and talking to other people at social events is *not* dragging them into anything. If you don't mention her, you're not dragging them anywhere near her mess.

They already know she's behaving badly *and they aren't blaming you.* Particularly if they've known her longer, they know How She Can Get and they aren't going to blame somebody else when she's carrying on again.

Here's the thing: you are trying to take responsibility for her bad behavior. Leave her to her own shit and worry about your own shit for a change. Why in hell would you want to be responsible for her shit, anyway?

You didn't mess her up and you have nothing to do with her behaving poorly, so stop trying to take credit for it. Sheesh!
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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