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Old 09-27-2009, 05:31 PM
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Well, as I suspected, she would like to return to being monogamous with her husband. She doesn't want anyone else involved. In her words, she wants it to be "just her and him, before this whole misguided adventure began".

I guess we'll have to see how that all plays out...whether a friendship can be maintained or not. Either way, it was handled in a way that was pretty inconsiderate of my feelings and I've been burned. And it's also clear that while her feelings may have changed about things, it seems his feelings haven't. That's something they're going to have to settle and I've said what I can say about my side of it. Again, we'll have to see. I've been very clear about my feelings throughout this while they haven't been.

For couples who wonder why unicorns are so rare, it is because this is the sort of thing that happens the majority of the time. I've known too many people who have been burned this way. People aren't going to be quick to jump into situations where they are still disposable no matter how sincere and earnest the couple may seem.
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Old 09-27-2009, 05:39 PM
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For couples who wonder why unicorns are so rare, it is because this is the sort of thing that happens the majority of the time. I've known too many people who have been burned this way. People aren't going to be quick to jump into situations where they are still disposable no matter how sincere and earnest the couple may seem.

I couldn't agree more...
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Old 09-27-2009, 05:41 PM
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Oh, Ceoli, I am so sorry. So very very sorry.
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I'm so sorry Ceoli

I'm sorry they were so inconsiderate of you when you were so open and honest with them.

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Im really sorry to hear this too Ceoli. Im sorry that your honesty and openess was not recipricated.

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People aren't going to be quick to jump into situations where they are still disposable no matter how sincere and earnest the couple may seem.
We all take risks when we involve ourselves with others -- whether as a "third" entering an existing couple relationship or as a single person getting involved with another, etc.... Some "unicorn hunters," so called, may begin with the idea of disposibility. Others won't. Each situation has its own unique people involved.

I'm sorry for your loss and for your hurt, Ceoli.
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Old 09-27-2009, 09:15 PM
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Some "unicorn hunters," so called, may begin with the idea of disposibility. Others won't. Each situation has its own unique people involved.

That may be so, but the experiences of myself and many other "unicorns" suggest that this happens pretty often. Even with many unique people and situations, it seems that certain outcomes happen a lot more often than others. You'll pardon me if I approach the next situation with more caution than the last.
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Old 09-27-2009, 09:30 PM
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Ceoli,

Bring as much caution as needed, and remember that the risk of heart-wounds is for everyone involved -- unless you're dealing with world class creeps. (Don't even get me started about THOSE people!)

This couple that you were involved with were about to lose your close companionship before very long, as I remember -- as you're preparing to move back to England. This may be unrelated to what transpired -- but I would remind you that if they were able to remain utterly loving and open with you up to that ending ..., well, that would make them pretty remarkable human specimens. So it looks to me like it was gonna have some hurting and ending either way. And I say this with as much tenderness as I can bring to it, as well as the humility which comes with the fact that I simply don't have more than a faint hint of the complexities of your situation.

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