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Old 03-17-2011, 09:35 PM
BelewJay BelewJay is offline
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Question Suprises! Poly being one of them period

A few years ago I asked my lovely wife into bringing in a third lady for some fun and pleasure etc. That relationship lasted about a year. And during that time I fell madly in love with our lady. My wife, of 11 yrs at the time, and I became so much closer. I found her more attractive and I felt so much more complete.

Surprise 1
I cannot explain the surprise in inner pleasure that I got when I saw the two of them kissing and experiencing themselves together with me. It was a sense of pride and an inner feeling I've never experienced myself. I had seen bi lady's on video's and porn etc and was aroused but I was never turned on so much until I saw to people that I loved in this manner.

Surprise 2
After some very very bad decision with this lady above I realized that "Not every relationship is the same" But they can be close as well.

Surprise 3
Being of Poly nature! I had not known about Poly or could never lay my finger on "what was wrong with me". Now I just have to figure out how to make the transition into a poly life with the one woman that has stuck by me through thick and thin. I love her so much... However, she is Monogomous... AH I'm scared!

Grown straight men can be scared to right?
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Old 03-18-2011, 01:30 PM
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Of course they can! *hug* You gotta experience the depths of pain to experience the heights of pleasure and blissful transcendence.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

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Old 04-02-2011, 04:14 AM
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Mine was that my bf's love for our girlfriend truly didn't diminish his love for me.
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Old 04-20-2011, 10:35 AM
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I think the biggest surprise for me has been the closeness polyamory has brought to my marriage. It is shocking how much the openness changes the established relationship, and thus far only in very good ways. It's exiting to have my girlfriend in my life and to get to know her and I like her a lot. So I guess the positive feelings I have because of that sort of spill over to other aspects of my life and my marriage as well.
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