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Old 04-12-2011, 02:26 AM
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By communicating better, faster, and harder than everyone else, of course!
TP I think I have a little crush on you
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Old 04-12-2011, 05:07 AM
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By communicating better, faster, and harder than everyone else, of course!
You forgot being more out, have more lovers, and only surround yourself with poly people... oh ya, and more sex with more people, and do more poly advocacy than anyone else.

Derby, please don't take this on... Keep your competitiveness for the rink, k? Pllleeeease???
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Old 04-12-2011, 10:43 AM
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Old 04-12-2011, 12:03 PM
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"How does one go about "winning" at poly"

I feel that I have already "won". One difference between me and a lot of the folks I come into contact with is that I am not a competitive person, although I tend to come across that way superficially. I do not measure my success or progress according to the success or progress of other people.
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Old 04-12-2011, 01:51 PM
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You forgot being more out, have more lovers, and only surround yourself with poly people... oh ya, and more sex with more people, and do more poly advocacy than anyone else.

Derby, please don't take this on... Keep your competitiveness for the rink, k? Pllleeeease???
I have absolutely no interest in taking this on. I just want to live my life...this just sounds so political Oh and I like hanging out with my non-poly friends too, I'd miss them if I tried to win at poly!
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Old 05-01-2011, 10:16 AM
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Recently I have been reading books about monogamist threesom relationships and I found that's what I have been missing in my life. But I'm a shy guy that has a hard enough time getting a relationship to work with one person so adding another might be a bad idea but its all I can think about these days. I have no clue how I should go about starting/joning a polyamory relationship. I'm still not sure if I'm just crazy and this is a dumb idea to want this or not but I just feel like sharining my love with 2 ppl feels right I don't know why....I think I might be ranting now sorry.
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Recently I have been reading books about monogamist threesom relationships and I found that's what I have been missing in my life.
What is a "monogamist threesome relationship"?

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I'm merging this with "How to meet like-minded people" because it's basically a "Hi I'm new at this. What should I do to get started?"

If you want to have your own thread where you can write and vent with minimal interference and maximum support, you can start one in Life Stories and Blogs, or in General Discussions / New to Poly if there is something specific that you would like to explore in a discussion or debate.

The way it is now, this topic is ongoing, and could be of benefit to others in a similar situation, as could reading the already-existing/past advice from others to yourself.

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What is a "monogamist threesome relationship"?
A poly-fi triad, maybe?

Being single, atm, JesusPants, the quickest way to go about becoming a member of a poly-fi triad (a relationship where three people are equally involved with each other sexually and romantically and not involved in that way with anyone else outside the triad) is to seek out a couple who are looking for a unicorn. Do a tag search on 'unicorn' and 'triads' to find out more! Your sexual orientation sets out the parameters of your search, but be forewarned - unicorn-hunt can be tiring both for the couple hunting AND the unicorn who waits for someone to lasso them . So many people eventually end up cultivating individual relationships in a formation commonly called a 'vee', which sometimes may transition into triads.
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Old 05-01-2011, 06:36 PM
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jesuspants is male and therefore not a unicorn by definition.
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Old 05-01-2011, 06:56 PM
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Could he be a male unicorn, aka municorn?

Straight male unicorns would probably have it somewhat hard to find a couple of bisexual women interested in him, so in that case I would think first finding a poly-minded bi-woman would be the easiest course of action.
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