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Old 03-30-2011, 11:40 PM
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I love that quote in your signature, but I haven't noticed it before. Have you added it recently?
A week or so ago I think. I heard it on TV and thought it suited something I was working on at the time.
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Old 03-30-2011, 11:42 PM
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Hey..I 've got a motorbike that I'm practically fluid bonded with and a borrowed cat who I'm sure has unnatural feelings for me

Being mono is sooo lonely
Question: Are your motorbike and the cat mono, do you consider yourselves a V, or is it a triad?
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Old 03-31-2011, 01:09 AM
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Question: Are your motorbike and the cat mono, do you consider yourselves a V, or is it a triad?
My motorbike is definitely mono! She's got a solo seat and only lets me ride her Blasphemy to think anything else.

The cat cheats..I just know it That pussy is way to big for one person to take care of.
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Old 03-31-2011, 02:58 AM
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Hahahaha....you guys are funny!!

I just wanted to contribute that I have a small circle of lovers and friends. 6 months ago it was quite a bit larger. I did visuals of them (see attached). The more complicated one is outdated, but it shows the complex possibillities and every time you add a person the configuration can change. Look at if for a momement. The Circles/F's are females....the Squares/M's are Males. The purple lines connect people who are aquaintances or friends, but non sexual and the number in the line is the number of years they've known one another. The Green lines connect people who are sexual and the number in the green line is the amount of years they have known one another. -1 means less than 1 year. I'm represented by F1 Idealist in the center!! There are 4 momonagmous people in the group.
The more simple drawing is current. The Red lines connect sexual partners and the green lines connect aquanitances or friends.
I totally believe that you can love many more than 4 or 5 people, but (for me) my love relationships aren't fufulling if we can't have a social life together. And more than just a social life- meaningful connections. That is why my circle has changed. For me, it's more about quality rather than quantity. I'm trying to find a good balance of people that interact well together and that is tricky.
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Old 03-31-2011, 06:36 AM
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That diagram reminds me of one I saw a couple of months ago that caused some drama as it was not known that two of the people in it were sexual... turns out they weren't but it caused drama for a bit while sorting it out.

I love how these diagrams tend to be about who is boinking who. The moment that the info was passed that they were in fact not having sex, and therefore not partners some how, meant that a whole chunk of people fell off the diagram and were not part of the constilation. Sex makes all the difference in these things it seems... regardless of saying it doesn't.
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Old 03-31-2011, 06:32 PM
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I can't remember any of their names right now, but we've had a group of 7 people on the forum who were all in a relationship together. It was 3 couples and one individual, so most of them had a primary and weren't with everyone on the exact same level (I believe they went to bed to sleep with their respective other half), but they were all romantically and sexually attached to one another. They were divided into 2 households.

I remember thinking that would be way too much for me! Are they still around these days?
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I can't remember any of their names right now, but we've had a group of 7 people on the forum who were all in a relationship together. It was 3 couples and one individual, so most of them had a primary and weren't with everyone on the exact same level (I believe they went to bed to sleep with their respective other half), but they were all romantically and sexually attached to one another. They were divided into 2 households.

I remember thinking that would be way too much for me! Are they still around these days?
It sounds like you might be talking about the same group I mentioned earlier, maybe? :
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Selene, who was married to Andulvar and dating Marius, Company, and Thunder, as well as Vegeta and Ariel. I think they all lived in two houses, but then I believe Vegeta and Ariel broke it off (somewhat dramatically, if I recall) and left the tribe.
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Old 03-31-2011, 06:47 PM
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They all started fighting and there was some domestic violence and two of them moved back in with their parents. They were all in their late teens and early 20's, so my age-ist remark for the day was that that was some kind of rebellious-experimentation thing.

When I was that age, I kept it simple and called it "fucking my roommates".
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...derby's husband's girlfriend has a boyfriend who has other girlfriends... does he have a boyfriend too?
My husband's gf has a bf who has another gf who is mono...clear as mud?
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Old 03-31-2011, 06:50 PM
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Ah, you're right, I'm not sure how I overlooked that. Yes, that's who I meant, and I guess their breakup matched the time I wasn't spending a lot of time on the forums. Too bad things didn't work out. (Although if I can count they're still five?)
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