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Old 03-11-2011, 01:46 AM
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Example: I have a wild, straggly (greying) beard. A few of my women friends have said: "But, J, you'd look so much younger and more attractive if you'd just shave your beard off!"
My unreasonable reply: "Anyone who needs to see me beardless to notice my worth as a person doesn't interest me as a possible girlfriend."
LMAO,

Maca's FWB has a thing for men with "straggly greying beards". I tease her about it all of the time. I think Maca may very well be the youngest AND youngest looking guy she dates. :P

I myself am "poly-full" hahah, I made that up. But, if we do get to Spain, I'd love to climb through the mountains for a cup of tea (I don't drink coffee, but you can!)
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LMAO,

Maca's FWB has a thing for men with "straggly greying beards". I tease her about it all of the time. I think Maca may very well be the youngest AND youngest looking guy she dates. :P

I myself am "poly-full" hahah, I made that up. But, if we do get to Spain, I'd love to climb through the mountains for a cup of tea (I don't drink coffee, but you can!)
Is there some place where I can bone up on these abbreviations: LMAO, FWB, etc.? And what do the do-hickies (baggage labels[?], paperclips, lightbulbs, etc.) at the sides of topics in the forum list mean? Is there something going on here that I should know about?
If you bring the tea yourself (and any coffee drinkers in your group bring their coffee), you're on. If you'll accept herbal teas, I can supply them - or home-made elderflower champagne.
I see that you want to learn French. Shouldn't you be studying Spanish and Italian, hmmm?
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yeah in theory learning any second language would be a hell of a start. I suck at it. Or so I think anyway.

LMAO is laugh my ass off or laughing my ass off.

I don't know what the little do-hickeys mean. Might ask Redpepper or neonchaos, they're moderators.

Shit, can't remember what else you asked! I'm going to have to click post and go back again...

Dh-dear husband
bf-boyfriend
gf-girlfriend
dd-dear daughter
ds-dear son (or desperately seeking I suppose)

afk-away from keyboard
lol-laughing out loud...

IDK-I don't know...

I'm running out of steam.. I always ask my kids these things.
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oh yes, FWB-friend with benefits
FB-fuck buddy
SO-significant other...

actually there is a definitions page I created awhile back on here... I'll see if I can find it, I think it has some of the abbreviations too....
( I copy/pasted it from another website cause I was getting so damn confused I figured other people probably were too!)
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http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1720

That's the one I was thinking of...
but you may find this whole thread interesting and useful too.

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1830
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Elderflower champagne? How divine! And homemade, too? Mmmm...
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I'm always game to try a new tea. I don't do coffee, blech, but tea, I'm pretty open.

Especially with sociable people!!
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yeah in theory learning any second language would be a hell of a start. I suck at it. Or so I think anyway.
I prepared the following last week at home:
In spite of French being the foreign language that I've spent the most years in classrooms learning - I studied it for 5 years in secondary school and a further year at teacher training college - because I've never lived long-term in France, itís the weakest of my languages. If I'm travelling through France, my ease in speaking it improves by the day. (But then deteriorates again once I leave.)

My experience is that if youíre not going to be using a language very often, itís going to be harder to learn it. So, unless thereís a colony of French-speakers near where you live in Alaska or youíre planning to move to Quebec or Louisianna, with whom are you going to be able to practice your French? On the other hand, thereís a lot of Spanish spoken in quite a lot of the USA. And I suspect that Italians would be more numerous than French. (?) Additionally, if youíre planning to travel to Spain and Italy (you didnít mention France to me, but maybe it also plays a big role in your plans?) it would make sense to learn one of those two languages. And Ė closer to home Ė if you want to travel in Latin America, Spanish would definitely be the one to go for.


And today I read that one of your children's father is Spanish-speaking (so she speaks it a bit, too), so it really seems like there's your best chance at practice. (Unless there's something about the French that I don't know.) [And if she joined you in improving her Spanish, it could help her come closer to her father's family roots.]

A word of warning (possibly not at all to the point): sometimes some of us set ourselves almost-impossible tasks so that we'll have an excuse not to be putting effort into something else that's difficult but definitely do-able.
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Additionally, if youíre planning to travel to Spain and Italy (you didnít mention France to me, but maybe it also plays a big role in your plans?) it would make sense to learn one of those two languages.
I also believe that Italians understand Spanish and vice versa a lot easier than either understand French, so either of the first 2 languages would help you in 2 out of 3 of the countries.
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I also believe that Italians understand Spanish and vice versa a lot easier than either understand French, so either of the first 2 languages would help you in 2 out of 3 of the countries.
A lot of Italians are fluent in French, actually, as I have found when traveling to Italy. (I'm French). Spanish is pretty much half Latin-based, half Arabic-based and therefore a bit "more different".

I definitely agree with the idea of picking a language you'll use. You're much more likely to be able to learn it and then to remember it.

If you pick a language people around you don't speak, I strongly suggest surrounding yourself with it. For instance, to pick French as an example (because I know where to find things in French as a French person in North America), there are numerous radio channels you can find on the Internet. You can find some TV online as well, and I'd suggest checking for DVDs in the library or rental place, and looking for French-language mp3s. I suspect most of these would work for other languages as well.

In my experience (in learning English) what works best is:

A) surround yourself with the language "passively" (listen to a lot of music in that language, watch movies with subtitles in your first language). Study at the same time, and you'll start picking up more and more words and expressions you recognise.
B) when you learn the language more, switch to subtitles in the foreign language, and get the lyrics of songs you like and study them
C) finally, watch the movies without subtitles at all, and try understanding new songs without any lyric help. That's also the point when you should be able to follow radio shows, radio plays and "saga mp3" (which are the sound equivalent to webcomics, and pretty popular in France). You can start trying these earlier, but you're likely to be overwhelmed and get discouraged, so I strongly recommend leaving it to the side at first.

This takes a very long time, and even all of these probably won't be enough. I would also recommend getting skype or another "phone via the internet" program and finding people whose first language is the one you're studying, and contacting them. Just be honest, say you want to learn their language and would like to try talking to them.

All of these are ways you can try and make for not being around people who speak the language you want to learn. They require effort and still aren't as good as living inside of it. So I'd suggest picking a language that's common where you are if you're worried it would be too hard otherwise.
Or at least try to see if there is a community for that language someone around where you live. Immigrants from a specific region often gather around the same place, and you would get lots of books, musics and movies in their language, as well as local products (from where they're from) and the ability to talk with them.

And of course, even if you learn a language that's spoken around you, the advice above still doesn't hurt.

Good luck!
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