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Old 03-27-2011, 06:47 PM
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Sorry long……Hubby and I decided to have a threesome with a female friend of his. She approached us that she was interested in having one because she was attracted to us both. She set a date in which to have her and I go out in order to get to know her better and see if I was attracted to her and see if I wanted to take it further. The date went great and we decided to go back to our house to have some play time.

She is very experienced with threesomes and being with women and this was my first time at both. It was understood that I am shy and that she should be the instigator, but I ended up having to come on to her in order to get things going. She was on her time of the month so it was suppose to be introducing me to everything and playing with hubby. She ended up making out with us and licking my nipples and touching my vagina but no oral sex or interaction with hubby other than kissing and him touching her breasts. The next day I contacted her to see if she was interested in hubby and she said she was but she wanted to take things slow and work up to things. I was fine with that and made sure she knew that I was okay with her being with hubby as long as it was when we are all together, there was not to be anything separate because we are a package deal and not interested in having relations solo outside our marriage. She agreed to this and basically made us feel like she was in it for the long run and that we would be considering her our girlfriend.

Before this all happened she texted my husband constantly and he would do so to her because she had gone through a rough spell previously and he wanted to be there to help her through it. After this incident she slowed down on the text and would only reply when we contacted her. So we set a time to meet her for lunch because we have not seen her in 10 days. The first thing she says is she isn’t wearing panties and we blow it off as being flirty. While we had lunch some guy that frequents the bar comes and kisses her on the lips and text her constantly, this is fine because we understand that she has her own life outside of us. She comes back to our house and hangs out for most of the night, it was about 12 hours from lunch to when we take her home. While she was at our house we did not take it sexual because we wanted her to be able to come over without every time being about sex. During the time she was here she texted a lot.

So she decided to go home and I went to the bathroom and she had been hovering around hubby so he decided to grab her butt to see what she would do and she started encouraging him that she wanted to have sex. She flashed him and asked if he wanted to touch her hair down there. He kissed her and she pushed him away and said she wanted to be a good girl tonight and asked to leave. I took her home by myself and she didn’t make a move on me either. We are all adults and if she doesn’t want to be with us in that way say so or don’t tease us. I may end up saying something to her but I do not want to chase her off either, hubby and I wanted to have a girlfriend that was our friend first and that we can trust but she is sending us mixed signals.

Any comments would be appreciated. We have never done this before and we are not sure if she is just leading us on or wants us to chase after her or maybe we are just reading too much into it?


Last edited by newconfused; 03-27-2011 at 06:50 PM.
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