I love them both.... new and need help

[Ilove2men]

Thank you . I've stolen the idea to let him read wikipedia first and then discuss it with him. That way I don't ramble on and beat around the bush. All I can do is have faith in our love and hope for understanding at least.

[Ilove2men]

P.S. I gave the link of my thread to my friend. I think it really helped. He said it gave him a little more insight to what I am feeling. He thinks/thought he was not enough for me to love just him and that is so not the case! I love him just as he is and there is nothing that he could do because in my eyes he is perfect.

[MonoVCPHG]

I hope you truly figure this out. I don't feel like the best source of knowledge in this because I feel my own experience is so heavily dependant on one thing. I truly have not loved someoene the way I love Redpepper...that is the deciding factor. If my ex wife had of mentioned wanting another man I would have left immediately.

I honestly wouldn't recommend a mono/poly relationship to very many people. Especialy one involving distances..so I would be of little aid to your situation I'm afraid. Sorry

I have posted benefits and pitfalls on other threads however.

I hope you all find happiness and love
Mono

[LovingRadiance]

WOW. I totally feel your pain. Seriously! I feel like I'm reading my own feelings/thoughts. I loved the poem and copied it to my computer.
I hope you come back and tell us what happened. I'm new-maybe you already did in another thread. But I wanted to tell you I was moved by all you said.

[Ilove2men]

Alot has happened over the past week and I will update soon, promise! Alls I have time to say before rushing to work is I am a lucky lucky girl

[LovingRadiance]

That sounds like good things happened with your talks. I'm so happy for you!

I talked to my husband last night-we'll talk again some more tonight. I hope it goes ok too!