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Old 03-21-2011, 06:16 AM
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ambleew ambleew is offline
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Default Not sure if this is for me anymore?!

I'm not really sure where to start. I have posted a couple of times about my situation . (Names Changed except mine) I am married and together my husband and I have a girlfriend, Nicole. My husband met her at work and for awhile things were going OKAY. Honestly though, I think I have had more bad days than good. Where they both seem to have good days for the most part.

I have struggled with this SOOOO much. We have only been with her for three months..but to help financially, she moved in a couple of weeks ago. Things have been okay as far as her living here, but I have been having doubts again and I almost feel like it's to late to do anything about it. Nicole has NO family here (in Texas) and has a very strained relationship with most of her family that is out of state. She does have a few friends here. She met my family this weekend and that seemed to go okay. The next day, however, my husband told his mother without any warning. (When my mother and mother in law talked..my mother expressed how she wishes Nicole would just go away ) I was so pissed off that he told his mother. I think mostly because it makes me see how serious he really is, that he would tell his mother of all people. She had NO idea I was even bisexual and in a way, I feel that it was not his place to tell her about that part of my life. He sees this as a forever thing with Nicole, and I don't.

My question is...what in the HELL do I do?? Everytime I tell my husband about these doubts he swears up and down its my PMS talking and that I'm being really mean. (Because I tell him how bad she gets on my nerves and thinks everything she says is bullshit)

We got into a horrible argument before she even moved in. The argument was so bad, I thought he was going to leave me. I'm not sure if it's the poly thing or not, but I don't feel strongly for her like he does and I have TRIED! And I may not be the hottest thing..but I'm not that attracted to her in that way. She is not my type of girl and she acts so immature all the time. GRRR. What do I do? Is it just too late to do anything since she lives here now??

I am 31, hubby is 27 and girlfriend Nicole is 24.
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