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Old 03-11-2011, 09:47 PM
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Sounds to me like when Mon gets back, his LB could use a "date" with him to talk out some of that aggression.

Sometimes little boys need a man to vent to, not their mom.

You're doing a great job RP. I know it's been hard, I'm so glad that your whole tribe is stepping up to help out too.

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Old 03-12-2011, 05:43 AM
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So I'm off to my retreat after all. Derby is driving. I'm on the phone. She says hi.

PN's dad is still in a coma and stable for now. It could be for awhile it turns out. The doctor said at 5 today that he has a referal to a specialist for monday! Ooookay then. I guess a rest is in order. PN has vowed not to go to the hospital tomorrow and my parents agreed to take LB for 24 hours so he can have a real rest and so can I.

Just bought bathing suits and ready to hit the hit tub! 2 hour drive and we are there! Phew. Can't wait! all smiles.
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Old 03-12-2011, 06:37 AM
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That's wonderful RP. I'm glad everyone is getting to take a break for the weekend!
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Old 03-14-2011, 06:29 AM
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So Derby and I got there and the party was under way.. we found our private room and settled in to telling everyone what had happened and why we could get there. We met some new women that are swingers and got to talking about all kinds of things... the topic of swinging and poly never came up, but it was evident that although we all were fantastic women, there is a difference in life approach some how. not sure I can put my finger on it but fascinating to me!

The poly women seemed to be far more open to talking about BDSM, kink, relationship dynamics and expressing who they are more some how... or maybe that was just me being like that . Ahem, I did get passionate a few times about some things... and loud... and no doubt intimidating The swingers were a little more reserved and cautious about topics of conversation or what they thought about others and their relationships... of course this was one weekend, a certain group of people and from my perspective, so take it as you will knowing that... just musing...

I do hope that everyone was comfortable and had a good time anyway. There was occasions where I wondered if the conversation was too intense for some or the topic too way out there or something... of course I have no control over that and it isn't my place to worry or change it, but I do think about these things. I was one of the hosts after all.

We walked on the beach, made and ate lots of food, drank, did some drawing, did our nails, slept, watched movies, listened to music, chatted to each other, laughed, had sex and generally had an AWESOME much needed time. Ahhhhhhh.... lovely, thanks Derby for helping it to be so wonderful thanks for everyone there really, although I don't think any of them are on here but Derby.

PN had a relaxing weekend also and seems much rested... his dad had a turn for the better today... slightly better. Who knows, maybe they have discovered what the problem is. Not what was originally thought, but they have him on a course of steroids that are to bring down the inflammation in his lungs. I am so thankful to our medical system as he will be in the hospital for a long time and has been through so much so far, X-rays everyday, helicopter ride, incubation, many different courses of meds... WOW, and we don't have to even think of the cost. We just have to be concerned for him and look after each other. I can't even imagine what that must be like for our friends south of the border.
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I'm glad you had a good and restful time .

Yeah, I was VERY thankful for our health system when mom was so sick a couple of years ago. Cancer treatment, hospital stays, therapy, most of the meds (a couple the government didn't pay for) would have put my dad into debt for the rest of HIS life & he was 67 at the time! Despite our griping about what's wrong with the system it's STILL a good system.
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I'm still paying off my surgeries and we just got the first bill for Maca's.

I'm SO GLAD that you don't have those struggles and you can just focus on taking care of each other!
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Good and bad news... PN's dad has been given the week before they tell us that they recommend pulling the plug.. he just isn't getting better. we cross our fingers and wait.

My lovely Mono comes home tomorrow. I took the afternoon off and we intend to come right home to bed and lovin', dinner out to follow. And maybe a movie. Oh I can't tell you how much I missed him this week. He brings a lightness along with him where ever he goes. It doesn't matter what is going on he is always cheery... expect when he is grumpy, which isn't too often and usually because of poly related issues

I can't wait to bury myself into his arms and have a good cry. I needed him this week. I admit, I need him. I am not ashamed of that, I trust him entirely with my heart as I hope he does me with his own... this kind of commitment is life long. I intend to honour that... tomorrow
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I intend to honour that... tomorrow
This made me giggle.
Sorry to hear the news about PN's dad.
I'm so glad your Mon is back to love on you.
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thanks LR...

I'm feeling kinda useless on here right now... I think I shall resort to blog writing more often... I love that after two years this April I have noticed the ebb and flow of this forum... it goes through most definite stages and flavours. Interesting. Every now and then I am not useful and I take that as a sign that I can have a break. This is one of those times I think.

Mono is back, PN is vacant and unavailable for anything other than hugs and reassurance, LB is cranky and selfish right now... he's a kid, this is expected on March break and when there is upset in the family. I am getting irritable with the whole situation. Selfishly so also and acting like LB sometimes in my crankiness. Sigh...

I had a good cry on Mono yesterday. This helped a lot. His talking about his bike is helping a lot. His ability to not take on other peoples emotions is helping a lot... I take them on quickly and find it hard to separate myself... his ability to relax is helping me a lot. I am so grateful to him for being in my life. If it were just PN and I bumbling along I really don't think I could stay in this. There is no way, at this point I could stay with either of them in a monogamous relationship... not that anyone is asking me too, just that I am keenly aware of that these days.
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Old 03-18-2011, 02:45 AM
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You know what RP?

I love you!

You are just so....


well you write in a way that is simple to understand-it doesn't give me a headache to reason through what you are saying.


Somedays-that means SO DAMN MUCH to me.

And


When you write the things I'm feeling-but can't find words to express, I just feel a big huge grin pop up on my face because even if I can't figure out how to say it-someone understands.

XOXOXOOX
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