Originally Posted by MindfulAgony
Intellectually, I'm more comfortable with balance - symmetry. In reality, I know that this is rarely possible at any given moment. So, I fall back to the useful position of asking "is everyone getting their needs met and are comfortable with the situation?"
If the answer is yes, why conform to some ideal notion of equality for equalities sake? If you maintain the option of being poly, yet choose not to because of how you feel about being completely filled up, then I don't see the need to worry about the optics of it all. Just let go and enjoy.
If you don't think you can get your needs met that way, then that's another story altogether.
"Resentment destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stems the root of our spiritual disease."
"In dealing with resentments, we set them on paper - list people, institutions and principles with whom you are angry. Ask yourself why you are angry."
"In most cases it was found out that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal relationships, including sex, were hurt or threatened. We were sore, burnt-up." Alcoholics Anonymous, 64-65.