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Old 02-27-2011, 08:12 AM
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Default Being a parent/someone in a child's life

I've been thinking about the love we have for children/our children. There's a child on their way now ! Congrats to those !!

There's so much discussion here about love. I'd be interested to hear people's take on the love they have managed to cultivate with a child/or to have been lucky enough to receive from a child

Could be the love of your son or daughter...your neice or nephew...the child of the person you love...your child, whether biological or custodial or whatever...

I'm trying to remove any definition of who the child has to be...I think you get the picture..

Mine - I'm a mother - I'm always his primary...well, for now of course, he's little !
There will be a time where I won't be. He is certainly my primary relationship...I get so much happiness from pouring love into his little growing body and blossoming mind. It's the most wonderful of loves, in my opinion...the most naturally unlimited love, the most natural way to love without limits...the easiest way to be completely there for someone...regardless of pretty much anything that could ever happen. I love the ease of physical affection that we have. I love that we can look at each other and know with about 99% acuracy how the other would have felt/thought in reaction to a situation or comment. I love the support we give each other. I love that we challenge each other. We teach each other to think differently about the world.

I love that society is completely accepting of the bond that we can have. This may sound strange - But I love the fact I can't really be questioned about how much I love him. He is my child - it's completely ok for my love and affection to be on display. Deeply. Always. No explaination required.

Sometimes for many reasons...well, you know - It can be difficult for love to be open.


It's our first big chance for unconditional love to be established when we are little ourselves. And those of us that have children in our lives...it's so lovely !

I'm asking this here as we talk about sharing and love...and loving child is such a wonderful thing, it's so fulfilling. Sometimes all this grown up love can be so hard. I thought it might be nice to talk about love that can be....so easy, natural and uplifting.

Disclaimer - Of course - It's not always so easy. Often it's bloody hard ! I'm looking for the joyful moments truth be told
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Old 03-02-2011, 02:03 AM
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Every time my youngest son walks into the room, it brings a smile to my face. In fact, we left Friday to help the oldest daughter deliver her first child. The other three kids stayed home with GG.
After his birthday party on Saturday the youngest son went to stay with a friend. He just came home today.
There is just SOMETHING about him entering the house that calms EVERYONE. Absolutely everyone. His siblings are calmer, we parents are calmer. He's just a balm for every stressor.



THAT is unconditional love recieved. I've never met a soul who can give unconditionally love 100% of the time, til I met him. From the day he was born, he's given it to everyone around him. It's so amazing! What a little trainer!!
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Old 03-02-2011, 06:55 AM
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THAT is unconditional love recieved. I've never met a soul who can give unconditionally love 100% of the time, til I met him. From the day he was born, he's given it to everyone around him. It's so amazing! What a little trainer!!
That's so gorgeous, lovely and beautiful...I'm all cheerful now, thank you

BIG congratulations to you !
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Old 03-08-2011, 05:57 AM
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Thanks.

Today I cuddled the new grandbaby and got him off to sleep while his mommy was in bed catching up on zzz's.

The other sweet thing for this week is my baby girl. She's 3. She's taken to putting one hand on my cheek and saying, "mommy, you're my sweetie pie". SO CUTE!!!!
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Old 03-08-2011, 08:06 AM
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I've always loved kids. I taught preschool for a few years and loved watching them learn.

Karma and I have no children, but we are blessed with a niece and 2 god daughters that are our world.

My niece has made a huge impact in my life. Part of my recent turn around in how I choosing to live my life is for her. I want her to be proud of me.

Right now everything she does lights me up. I recently spoke to her on the phone and she fully pronounced "I love you (Mohegan)". When we last saw her at Christmas it was a jarble of toddler talk.

She turns 2 march 30th and with every milestone she reaches I feel like I have had some part in that. She is so smart, and so beautiful, and such a joy. Even when she is having a stubborn moment that could rival mine.

I love watching those blue eyes light up when she sees me. I love watching the gears turn as she puts things together in her head. Seeing her learn.

I think children are such a gift. They teach us as much as we teach them. Their innocence is a reminder of true honesty. They are so true to themselves.

I think any of us who have kids in our lives are truly blessed.
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Old 03-08-2011, 09:48 AM
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My niece has made a huge impact in my life. Part of my recent turn around in how I choosing to live my life is for her. I want her to be proud of me.

Right now everything she does lights me up. I recently spoke to her on the phone and she fully pronounced "I love you (Mohegan)". When we last saw her at Christmas it was a jarble of toddler talk.

She turns 2 march 30th and with every milestone she reaches I feel like I have had some part in that. She is so smart, and so beautiful, and such a joy. Even when she is having a stubborn moment that could rival mine.

I love watching those blue eyes light up when she sees me. I love watching the gears turn as she puts things together in her head. Seeing her learn.

I think children are such a gift. They teach us as much as we teach them. Their innocence is a reminder of true honesty. They are so true to themselves.

I think any of us who have kids in our lives are truly blessed.
Thanks Mohegan - You describe your relationship so well - I can feel the rays of sunlight she brings you !

I have looked after my girlfriend's 2 children every thursday for the last 4 years - She works late on a thursday. She looks after my kid on a Monday, when I work late..

I'm so appreciative of being in a position where I can develop a relationship with those 2 little minds. She seems to think I'm doing her a favour - I've always felt the pleasure is mine....that I'm the one getting the bargain
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