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Old 09-14-2009, 03:14 PM
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Vanilla can ge pretty vague for sure. I enjoy light BDSM activities in an erotic sense with Redpepper one on one because I am connected to her and it feels intimate...and is going to include sex LOL!. In a group setting it is more about just seeing people have fun and enjoying the fact that they enjoy it...compersion I guess
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Old 09-14-2009, 03:55 PM
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Vanilla is my favorite flavor of ice cream because it goes with just about everything and still stands on its own.

But the reason it is used to describe "not kinky" is because it is considered the "plainest" of the ice-cream flavors.

This is no big secret mystery and just because it isn't on Wiki doesn't mean it ain't so.
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Old 09-14-2009, 04:52 PM
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I fully understand that "vanilla" is understood to be "plain," and all that..., but truly, what is plain is all of that "vanilla ice cream" which is artificially flavored and mass-produced. When I was a kid, I helped make home made vanilla ice cream, using actual vanilla beans! There is NO COMPARISON between that and the crap most folks buy at grocery stores! There's NOTHING "plain" about real vanilla ice cream. It's extraordinary!
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Old 09-14-2009, 04:56 PM
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This thread has just taken an awesome tangent!! LOL!
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I read somewhere that artificially synthesized vanilla flavoring cannot be frozen because it breaks down and becomes nasty-tasting, but I am at work right now and the book I read about that in is at home.
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We did have lots of fun. but there is definitely no poly creeping into me at all. In fact, one of my fears around this is that I might give the impression of being anything but monogamous and that perhaps my boundaries within our relationship were relaxing. Her other Love has always been a part of her life since before me. I am glad to be more comfortable around him in this way with Redpepper but still have the same requirements for polyfidelity towards other men. If anything those boundaries are becoming stronger the closer I get to Redppper.

Wow, even suggesting I was becoming more poly was a trigger for sure...interesting. Every now and then I am amazed at how natural I find my relationship although the concept of poly completely goes against my nature. I love Redpepper completely but know that without her I would I would easily migrate away from the poly and sex positive community because I am not a "natural fit"..I'm just not sure where I would end up anymore...alone I guess
Sorry If I touched a nerve or caused offence, Mono. Im glad that your relationship with Rp is at a stage where you are truly comfortable to explore such things with her. That is very special.
I dont think you would be alone .. And what truly is a natural fit? Sometimes pushing your boundaries can lead to some amazing new discoveries. As Im sure you have discovered.

I enjoy a little bit of Light Bdsm... Not the the leash and collar extent but I do enjoy being dominated and a few other things.
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Old 09-15-2009, 05:38 AM
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Sorry If I touched a nerve or caused offence, Mono. And what truly is a natural fit? Sometimes pushing your boundaries can lead to some amazing new discoveries. As Im sure you have discovered.

I enjoy a little bit of Light Bdsm... Not the the leash and collar extent but I do enjoy being dominated and a few other things.
No actual offence taken Sunshinegirl. I am very proud of how I love and can react to things as opposed to responding to them..I'll work on that

Pushing boundaries is a dangerous thing for me. I don't really have the ability to step back once a line has been crossed...another aspect of my black and white nature. Things change very permanently for me in most cases.

That being said me and Redpepper discuss boundaries as opposed to pushing them. We discussed my boundaries throughout the night and because I felt so respected my comfort level skyrocketted. She has no idea how her respect for my comfort filled me with a new aspect of love for her.

The leash was my idea. I don't play by BDSM rules and don't care what the "rules" say about collars. I simply wanted everyone to know I was willingly all hers and I felt damn proud to be with such a sexy lady!
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You were damned proud to be "owned!" Even wanted that written on your back.

My other (my "fancy" as he calls himself) really enjoyed getting to know you more. The fact that you were my helper was exciting for him... and that you allowed him to touch me in your presence. He really was concerned about who you were at the beginning and that your back ground and way of being was different than ours. It just goes to show that there is room for everyone where love and caring about one another are concerned.

You enjoyed the black and whiteness of BDSM didn't you Mono? Something that I am sure we can use sometime in our own play I have thought about it extensively and am very excited...
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Old 09-15-2009, 06:28 AM
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You were damned proud to be "owned!"

My other (my "fancy" as he calls himself) really enjoyed getting to know you more.

You enjoyed the black and whiteness of BDSM didn't you Mono? Something that I am sure we can use sometime in our own play I have thought about it extensively and am very excited...
A) I am damn proud to be owned by you all the time...that's how I like it

B) Your husband, him and me had a great night Friday as well which definitely benefitted us all. He is a caring and fun guy

C) Black and White are my favorite colors! Glad you are excited...
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Old 09-15-2009, 07:36 AM
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I feeeeel the luuuuurrrve!

Wow guys, just wow. Lovely to hear about, thanks for sharing!

I've not really tried anything BDSM, at least, as far as I'm aware of, but it sounds like it could be fun!
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