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Old 03-05-2011, 04:34 PM
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Default Sleeping three to a bed

Ok, silly question, but I'd seriously welcome input from more experienced polyamorists: how do you deal with sleeping three to a bed? I mean actually sleeping, in the non-euphemistic sense. Very limited experience suggests that it's just not all that comfortable for the one in the middle, especially if he or she is at that age where getting up during the night is non-optional.

Background: newly-formed poly triad involving very-long-term married couple and single woman, none of whom have any poly experience, and none of whom was particularly looking for a poly relationship when we met. Strong emotional bonds all around, no jealousy at all at the moment, major NRE. We have no idea what we're doing here; we just discovered that we all want to be with each other all the time and we're taking it from there. Any advice at all from the more experienced would be welcome, whether or not it involves beds.
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Old 03-05-2011, 05:00 PM
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Have you done a search here? There are a few threads that have addressed this kind of stuff. Here are some I found:


Protocol question - marriage bed

Multi-partner co-habitation

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Good pointers in at least one of those threads. I didn't even notice the search feature. Thanks!
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I think there was a movie that addressed this very problem once...

"We're going to need a bigger boat!"
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I think there was a movie that addressed this very problem once...

"We're going to need a bigger boat!"

That was in "Blow" and the comment was in reference to how much money they had from selling all that cocaine.

Those threads have been merged (thanks for finding them, nycindie) and this is being added to Golden Nuggets (if it is not there already).

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That was in "Blow" and the comment was in reference to how much money they had from selling all that cocaine.
Actually I was thinking of an earlier movie, with a far more recognizable theme.
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Actually I was thinking of an earlier movie, with a far more recognizable theme.
As usual, I am not versed in the popular culture.
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"We're going to need a bigger boat!"
Jaws.


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Those threads have been merged (thanks for finding them, nycindie) . . .
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Ya, see what I mean? There are a lot of pseudo-cult films that I haven't seen. "Jaws" is one of them. I am so uncool that way.
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Ya, see what I mean? There are a lot of pseudo-cult films that I haven't seen. "Jaws" is one of them. I am so uncool that way.
Ah, it's a classic Roy Scheider moment:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8gciFoEbOA8
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