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Old 03-02-2011, 03:29 PM
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........... If you are not breastfeeding at the moment, I'd recommend seeking out a psychiatrist and starting out on mild anti-anxiety medication, such as SSRIs. To focus on therapy and the healing process, you need some sort of mental focus, which the meds will help you achieve. Also, it's practically impossible to get hooked on that stuff.
Hey BU...........

NO NO NO NO !

One thing we all try to avoid for obvious reasons is giving out medical advice - ESPECIALLY regarding meds ! First, unless you are educated and trained in the field you are unqualified. Secondly, even if you are, you can't make an accurate diagnosis over a couple posts on an internet forum ! (which you would know)

The current list of modern psyc meds is a very dangerous list and there are huge problems worldwide because of abuse and inappropriate use of these (often untested) medications.

The valid advice you offered.....seek a GOOD psychologist/psychiatrist. A good start. That will be challenge enough - finding someone both truly qualified and willing to put in the time to work real HEALING on a person in a holistic way. Because when it comers to matters of mental health there is no other alternative. It's (we) all a connected, interactive system.

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Old 03-02-2011, 03:33 PM
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Agreed.
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Old 03-02-2011, 08:16 PM
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....that I really appreciate all your support, understanding, and insight.

I am in a horrible place right now

I am going through what BlackUnicorn says .....I am nursing bitterness (taking a slow and painful killing poison myself, while praying someone else dies from it)

I have hate for his secondary, and anger toward her and my husband for what they have done to me

I am not going to post threads for a while....because I don't want my involve here to be centered on negativity (but it is all I have to give right now)




As for as healing goes, only time will tell right.....I know many of you said that going numb is not a good idea....and that meds may be a bad idea too.

Well that is the only thing I can do right now :9
These are the only things a can do the escape the nightmare I am in.

Hopefully in the future there are brighters days ahead

I'll keep reading and responding to others post though, I hopes to help them when ever possible.


Thank you again

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Old 03-02-2011, 08:57 PM
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Old 03-02-2011, 09:22 PM
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Old 03-02-2011, 10:28 PM
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As for as healing goes, only time will tell right.....I know many of you said that going numb is not a good idea....and that meds may be a bad idea too.

Well that is the only thing I can do right now :9
These are the only things a can do the escape the nightmare I am in.
A word of warning: There is no escaping from emotional pain. Trying to avoid the pain -- which is really there, anyway -- actually results in greater suffering. The way to get free of this suffering is to turn toward and embrace the pain while holding all of the stories around the pain loosely, with curiosity rather than certainty. Let the sensation of pain be as big as it is without clinging to stories and healing insight is inevitable, as well as a release from suffering. Pain is not your enemy! It cannot harm you.

As the Borg (Star Trek) said, "resistance is futile". Luckily, that doesn't mean we have to be assimilated into the Borg hive!
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Old 03-03-2011, 04:13 AM
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Thank you for your love and the words of wise advice....I will take them
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Old 03-03-2011, 05:33 AM
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Honestly... this doesn't sound like a polyamorous relationship!!

Poly relationships are MUTUAL agreements... not a one sided "hall pass" to cheat. If you are unhappy, then it's NOT working and he IS cheating.

If you'd like to talk, feel free to message me on here or email me: lovemultiplied@gmail.com

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