We both just read your post because we haven't been on this site for a few days. What an amazing coincidence. We have been going along really smoothly and have eliminated the lows as you call them. My wife saw both of her lovers this week and enjoyed both"dates," as we call them, immensely. I am beyond jealousy because of our total honesty, her constant reassurance that I am the love of her life, and, of course, our great sex. It may not always work and we may stop at some point but it is working great for us now. We wish you and your husband and "friends" the same success.