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Old 09-12-2009, 02:30 PM
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Aaron, you speak (type) as though life comes with an owner's manual and you misplaced yours.

At least you're trying to download a copy from the internet.
I don't see that in Aaron's questions.
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Old 09-12-2009, 06:07 PM
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Thanks everyone for your input so far. Apparently it does happen more than I thought. I'm glad to see that.

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As I said, my husband and I started off open. Maybe we weren't technically single as we were each dating others. But we didn't consider either of us were "joining" an existing relationship since I didn't know his other gf and he didn't know my other bf.
I had a similar situation, but I can see your point about how it's really no different from starting as two singles.
Strangely I always look at it like I'm becoming a secondary because her other love has seniority, and yet I never really pick a favorite/primary for myself. Maybe I should relax more when going into these things.
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Old 09-13-2009, 12:59 AM
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Maybe I should relax more when going into these things.
Pretty much. Just do what most successful couples do. Go with the flow, be honest, and take it at a comfortable pace for everyone. Adding more people complicates things but the dynamics of all healthy relationships center around communication, trust, honesty, and caring about the other(s) involved.
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Old 09-13-2009, 10:58 AM
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xyz, that's very sound advice.
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Thanks Mark. Every so often I manage to make sense. I think...
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