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Old 02-12-2011, 11:57 AM
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Even before I started down the road to poly, I'd get this kind of thing for looking...and yeah, I looked...my response was always the same...
"I'm married...NOT dead!"
Couple of guys at work were talking about "window shopping" with lots of hastily added "as long as my wife doesn't catch me" and "always look but don't touch". I couldn't help by smile knowingly and shake my head.
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Old 02-14-2011, 10:34 AM
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A friend of mine said to me "oh, but I suppose if you were in a real relationship......"

My reaction was "We've been seeing each other for close to a year, so it is pretty real actually, and yes, his other girlfriend is also real"

I did feel a little sad
It made me feel that the relationships I have aren't recognised as something valuable in the eyes of some of the other people whom I care for, and who care for me.

That bit hurts from time to time...
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Old 02-15-2011, 02:31 PM
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[B]"This isn't some kinda kinky Mormon thing is it?!?"
My reply: "MOTHER PLEASE!"
My love to your mother! This is priceless.
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Old 02-15-2011, 02:36 PM
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[B][U]"You're just too immature to handle a REAL relationship!"
My heart's just too big to be limited to petty, stingy love.
Variation: "Grow up!!!"
- "Unless you become as a little child, you will never enter the Kingdom of Heaven!" - J.C.
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Old 02-19-2011, 09:54 AM
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"You can't have your cake and eat it too."
Watch me!

"Wouldn't it just be easier to screw around like everyone else??"
Easier? Probably. More fulfilling? No way!
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Old 02-19-2011, 11:35 AM
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[QUOTE=kettlingur;67152]"You can't have your cake and eat it too."

Oh yes how could we have forgotten this one, except in our case its "How can you let him have his cake and eat it too?"
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Old 02-19-2011, 09:25 PM
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In talking to some friends about wanting to be poly, they both reacted similarly:

"But that's just setting yourself up to be hurt!"

Like a mono relationship doesn't??? As if there's some magical situation that guarantees never feeling hurt? [sigh]

Another friend said:

"Geez, I can't even find one man to be with and you want two or three?"

Subtext: "How can you be so selfish???" [another sigh]
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Old 02-21-2011, 01:35 PM
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"Geez, I can't even find one man to be with and you want two or three?"

Subtext: "How can you be so selfish???" [another sigh]
Oh yeah, that's similar to one I mentioned.

I find that bitter single people bring up that line VERY often. It's a two-in-one punch---try to show disapprovement of polyamory while at the same time pulling a "pity me" scenerio.

This is probably why we have very few single friends right now.
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Old 02-21-2011, 05:08 PM
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Oh yeah, that's similar to one I mentioned.
Oops, sorry, I missed that one.
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Old 02-21-2011, 05:09 PM
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Oh yeah, that's similar to one I mentioned.
Oops, sorry, I missed that one. But it is a familiar refrain. My sister just said that to me this weekend.
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