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Old 02-12-2011, 11:49 PM
vodkafan vodkafan is offline
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Default Is our time split unusual?

I have been here a while now . I know that nothing is really new under the sun, somebody somewhere must be doing the same, but I was wondering if anybody else on here has a similiar time split to us:

My wife lives with me at our house for 4 nights (sun-wed) and then she goes and lives with her other guy (D) for 3 nights every week. (thurs-sat) Although in terms of actual hours it works out about 4 and 1/2 days to 2 and 1/2 days. She doesn't leave the house Thursday evening until the youngest kids are settled in bed. ( So I get most of thursday too!) They pick the younger children up from school on friday and also take them out on saturday afternoon, so she sees them everyday, so they are not missing out and they are also used to D being around. She also pops back to the house as and when she needs to, but she is basically D's wife for those days.
There are no limits on communication, anybody can phone /text anybody anytime they want to. For instance one of "my" days she might talk to him once or twice. .

That really works well for us and we are all happy. My wife gets to spend intensive , unhurried time with each of us and work on each relationship in turn. She likes to keep us both happy.
It is more Polyandry than polyamory. It seems the right way to do it for us somehow. But I wonder if anybody else practices something similar.
We found out from our experience over Christmas that she hates it when she has to be one day here and a few hours there, that kind of thing.
Any comments welcome, I really want to know.
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