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Old 02-09-2011, 08:24 AM
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Only took me 2 years to gather that but oh well the main thing is I have woken up - better late than never.
Sometimes these lessons, unfortunately, just need to be lived to be learned. Despite the pain caused by this whole ordeal, you now have some very specific things to look out for in the future.

That's thing about having an affair with someone... If they're cheating WITH you, they will always eventually cheat ON you. If they leave their spouse to be with you, they will eventually leave you to be with someone else. It's not that I don't believe cheaters can't change, but most often, they don't.
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Old 02-09-2011, 04:00 PM
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Now go to the doctor and get every test possible.
Excellent point, NYC. Redbull, the LAST thing you want is to find out in the weeks and months to come that this creepy guy gave you "the gift that keeps on giving."
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Old 02-09-2011, 04:01 PM
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That's thing about having an affair with someone... If they're cheating WITH you, they will always eventually cheat ON you. If they leave their spouse to be with you, they will eventually leave you to be with someone else. It's not that I don't believe cheaters can't change, but most often, they don't.
Especially when that behaviour has worked for them in the past.
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Old 04-20-2011, 12:16 AM
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I did say I would do a follow up.
I took the married guy back into my life in February. We lasted 2 months then split for good. Jealousy ripped us apart. It was a case of perfectly fine for him to be married and swan off to see Escorts in England but not ok for me to see some female friends.
Ive made some really good mates since then and have expanded on those i have. I had my first spiritual loving connection with a close female friend and her partner. Its kind of evolving into a hinge - her BF being the hinge. I feel great. Im on top of the world. I am living life to the full. My new glow, twinkle in the eye and bounce in my step seem to be attracting attention from outwith the poly situationship. I cant quite call it a relationship as its all still very new at the moment.
Life is good and I am feeling great just glad the married guy has ditched me.
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Old 04-20-2011, 02:11 AM
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thanks for the update!
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