Originally Posted by BaconWrappedCupcakes
I'm not poly, I don't want to be poly.
What does not being or wanting to be poly have to do with meeting her? It's not an infectious disease. Nobody gets a toaster oven for recruiting monos. Meeting her involves nothing more than meeting with somebody and having a discussion.
I'm wondering why you tossed that in your post. Your statement that you are mono covered that thoroughly, so why the reinforcement of the idea, especially directly after stating you don't want to meet her?
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.