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Old 01-21-2011, 07:49 PM
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I watch the others around me being courted and starting things with others and I am not part of that energy. It inevitably keeps me separated. If I am not available for sex, then I am not worth it to them.
That is incredibly sad. If all they are after is sex, then they are absolutely NOT worth your time and energy.
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Old 01-21-2011, 08:07 PM
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That is incredibly sad. If all they are after is sex, then they are absolutely NOT worth your time and energy.
I think its more like they don't see the value in having a relationship they aren't going to have sex in.

Poly people don't really do friendship with other polys in the same way as monos I've noticed. They don't seem to have time to have friends that are poly, only partners. Just an observation.

I would welcome a non sexual partner to be close with,
but if there is no time for friends then I doubt there is time for non sexual partners. Know what I mean?

Maybe its because they all think I'm poly fi? As a result of my dynamic? They don't understand something? Maybe they just don't like me? There is that possibility too.
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He says he will still be my friend and family, but because I know how he feels about our sex I doubt he will be.
Don't forget how hard I work at maintaining my friendship and family connection with some others Lilo. That should at least give an indication that you can trust in my words. For three years I have fought to keep that connection and what caused the initial seperation between us was a lot more damaging than the idea of you being free to explore others; I hurt thier best friends....you would just be living with a free heart and body with the blessing of a lifelong soul mate.....Me
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Maybe they just don't like me? There is that possibility too.
They all love you Bbay You're just too tempting...Meeeowww!!
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There actually seems to be two things going on for me that I don't understand about mono. One is about NRE and the other is about the kind of sex. I have to talk to him first before posting. Just thought of that though.
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There actually seems to be two things going on for me that I don't understand about mono. One is about NRE and the other is about the kind of sex. I have to talk to him first before posting. Just thought of that though.
Sounds like an old school "complete visit" tonight hunh Lilo...Wonder if it will end the same
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Just wanted to extend my appreciation for your original post. I've been trying to come to grips with my own feelings concerning my current relationship and the emotional struggle that has come with transitioning from a monogamous life to a poly one, but you pretty much nailed it on the head for me. It would seem that we are very much alike. Thank you.
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