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Old 01-31-2011, 06:43 AM
Aesthareon Aesthareon is offline
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Default ...And suddenly everything became complicated.

So, to start off, I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful, handsome young man, who I am very much in love with. He is also quite polyphobic due to some personal issues. At the beginning of the relationship I told him that I was polycurious, but that it probably wouldn't be much of a problem for me to be monogamous.

But of course, that didn't really turn out to be true, or I wouldn't be posting it here.

Somewhere around the same time that I met my current boyfriend, I also met another person, who I was also somewhat attracted to. When I started a relationship, however, I decided that the best thing to do would be to put such thoughts out of my mind.

Well, that didn't actually work so well. Last night, I was chatting on Facebook with the other boy, and discovered that my feelings for him were, and still are, mutual. Now things are a little more complicated. It was a lot easier to ignore my feelings while I wasn't sure whether or not he felt the same.

I have told my boyfriend about these newly resurfaced feelings, and he's understanding, and has told me that he wants to try to work out his issues about polyamory. However, I know that he's quite scared of this new situation. I don't want to ignore the feelings I have, but I want to wait until my current boyfriend is absolutely comfortable with whatever arrangement we decide on. The other boy has told me that he is willing to wait until this happens.

So, I guess I'm mostly looking for advice for this situation, about how I can support him, and how I can make him feel more comfortable.

Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for any advice. I'd be really grateful for it.
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