Originally Posted by Magdlyn
He feels more threatened by you having another male lover, than a female one. ?
Just to clarify, there is no sexual threat as in the idea of comparison. The only threat is to my connection towards Redpepper with regards to romantic involvement. Redpepper is allowed to have sex with anyone. There is no ownership in our relationship. Our compromises shape how our relationship works and how our love is expressed. We will be involved in each others life for a very long time regardless of what shape that takes in response to what we both need out of life
I own nothing...she gives me a gift and can withdraw that at anytime with my full understanding and support. Sex is important to me but it is not the be all and end all of loving, nor is it some inexcapable drive that makes me push myself into unhealthy territory to achieve. I'm above that.