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Old 09-04-2009, 12:40 AM
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Actually, I know WHY some people are turned off by their own stuff, I just think they should get over it.
I know why SHE feels that way. She's so obviously bisexual to EVERYONE but HERSELF. The woman used to creep into my bed naked and drunk when we were teens, coerce people to dare her into kissing other girls to show "how crazy" she was, ask to shower with me "to save hot water", and comment on every other females butt and breasts because she was "only comparing them to" herself. (I never even tried to touch her nor was ever interested.) Once I came out to her and she pulled the "gross" act, she then nagged me for every intimate detail of my sexual relationship with women.

The idea her own sexual organs are gross no doubt comes from her repressed bisexual side and the feeling that that is gross. I don't think she'll ever open up that side with the upbringing she's had and the repression to an ALMOST homophobia. To her credit, she never loved me any less after I came out. I don't know if she's even aware of it consciously herself. And I feel very sad for her sometimes.
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Old 09-04-2009, 12:42 AM
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There's also that... I wasn't trying to pigeon-hole anyone or make sweeping generalizations. I said SOME people...

But thank you for the explanation.

"To save hot water" that's a good one.
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Old 09-04-2009, 12:44 AM
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children are often taught that the genital and anal area are "private", "dirty", and/or "shameful" either in so many words or through actions and behaviours.
My son once told me his penis was sweaty and itched when I asked why he was touching it. A friend overheard and told him "Don't touch that! And don't say penis! Call it your firehose and only scratch it in the bathroom!" To which my son responded "That's stupid". And I responded "What he said". (He makes me so proud sometimes.)
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Old 09-04-2009, 12:46 AM
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Even so, I still don't scratch my crotch in public or say, in front of people I work with. Your son's friend does have the right manners.

The part about the firehose is silly though. People should know and use the correct names for body parts. I use slang because it's my choice, I would use the proper terms if I was at the doctor's or something.
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Old 09-04-2009, 12:49 AM
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It was MY friend. A grown woman. And the "That's stupid" was geared towards calling it a "firehose", not the scratching. I do tell him not to touch himself in public. Should have been more clear. lol
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Old 09-04-2009, 12:51 AM
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It was MY friend. A grown woman. And the "That's stupid" was geared towards calling it a "firehose", not the scratching. I do tell him not to touch himself in public. Should have been more clear. lol

OH!!! That's funny. That I misunderstood like that. Not the thing itself. Well the thing itself is kind of funny, too, but differently.

And i edited my message while you were writing yours!
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