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Old 01-17-2011, 09:32 AM
Crystal Crystal is offline
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Default Did I handle the situation right?

I'm in love with a married person about 2 years now. He is my professor and we have a strong spiritual bond, we talk almost about anything. He is my guide, my mentor, my soulmate. I haven't told him how I feel about him, because I didn't want to make him feel awkard and endangering the current friendship that we have established. But Iam trying to show my love in different ways, such helping him out with several projects and so on.

Anyways, I have decided to go on with my life and find a person that truly loves me and really love him too. I met a guy and we are together for about one month and a half. I have feelings for him, he is very sweet, but currently isn't in love with me (he just likes me, but he told me that Iam his type and he is going to fall in love with me soon). In other words we are in a phase that we are getting to know each other better.

Yesterday we were talking about relationships, and I expressed my opinion about loving more than one person at once. I still have strong feelings about my professor, that won't likely change, but i am starting to have the same feelings about my partner too. I haven't told him about my feelings about my professor, because the propability of actually him (my professor) answer to those feelings is close to zero. The propability is close to zero because I dont know if my professor feels the same way, and if he does, I would like to form a relationship but with his wife approval. That is, I want to her to know that he is also with me and wont be jealous or upset about it. And that's something that I don't know if it is actually going to happen. It's hard to explain my whole way of thinking in one post, so I guess that you get my drift.

So my question is. Did I handle the situation right? I mean, was it right to open a conversation like that with my boyfriend at this stage? I just want to be trully honest to him. If he can't stand me loving more than one person at once, I would not like to be with him, because I dont want to hurt his feelings. I care about him so much.
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