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Old 09-02-2009, 07:15 PM
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Default Coming Out - Redpepper needing some support

"Coming Out"

Redpepper could use any words of support and caring you might wish to pass on. Her parents are taking it very hard about her and her husband's polyamory as well as my involvement with her. She is struggling.

We'll fight through this just as we have fought through everything else and come out on top. Her husband's mom is taking it much better luckily.

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Old 09-02-2009, 07:25 PM
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Old 09-02-2009, 07:56 PM
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Sorry to hear this news. Some folks take monogamism pretty seriously.

After I used the term "monogamism," just now, I googled the term. And then I checked online dictionaries ... and the term is not yet in common usage.

Heterosexism is now included in the American Heritage Dictionary, Merriam-Webster's, and others, but only a few years ago it was not -- and so may be the case with "monogamism," ...

–noun a prejudiced attitude or discriminatory practices against non-monogamists and polyamorists .

Racists, sexists, heterosexists and monogamism-ists all believe that their kind is superior to any others -- and often the other kinds are considered "immoral, wrong, evil" ... "disgusting".... Certainly inferior.

Redpepper can be consoled by the fact that the monogamists are equally as wrong as the sexists and the racists, etc. Let her stand strong and say so with those who are ignorant of the facts.
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Old 09-02-2009, 08:05 PM
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Old 09-02-2009, 08:18 PM
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I read about that on Fakebook.

It ain't right for sure.

How did they deal with it when she was gay? Did they know about that?

Parents should support their kids' happiness no matter what. All that should matter to them is that she's happy and healthy, and not in trouble with the criminal justice system.

Cupcakes and ice-cream (or Rice-Dream for you vegans) for everyone!

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Old 09-02-2009, 08:20 PM
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Be strong girl. (((hugs))) Im sure that once they start to comprehend a bit better that It will all be ok. KUP please. Thinking of you all.
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Old 09-02-2009, 08:41 PM
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Hey RP, I'm sending good thoughts your way, and good thoughts for you too Mono. I think you did the right thing in taking a stance on truth, "your truth." Hang in there, sometimes the greatest struggles produce the greatest and most positive results.

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Old 09-02-2009, 09:33 PM
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Thanks for your comments...luckily Redpepper has two rocks to rest on, two trees to give her shelter and four shoulders to cry on....she has a lot of love in her life to carry her through.

Thanks again...If I wasn't so mono I'd kiss you all.
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RedPepper -
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You are a brave woman, RP. I don't know if the decision to discuss came about as a necessary explanation or a conscious choice, but from what I know of you, it was the latter.

It's gotta hurt to be judged by people you love when you make the bold move to be unapologetic and honest out of love for yourself and them.

I'm proud of you, as I'm sure your men and others in your life are. You did good. Now just give it time.

Wishing you all the best.
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