needing some advice please

[Laylah]

this is not what poly is supposed to be about... if your scared and fearing for your sanity.... then thats your mind and body's way of telling you something is WRONG. if your UH OH senses are tingling... its wise to pay attention to it. Before something happens that will shatter your frame of mind. If you need to talk msg me.

[SchrodingersCat]

If your partner has an abusive partner, then YOU are in an abusive relationship also, because a polyamorous relationship is a relationship between all the people in the respective relationships.

When a father comes home and beats his wife in front of his children, those children are being abused whether or not he's hitting them. Seeing someone you love get abused hurts you, and so you share the abuse.

[redpepper]

Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat

If your partner has an abusive partner, then YOU are in an abusive relationship also, because a polyamorous relationship is a relationship between all the people in the respective relationships........Seeing someone you love get abused hurts you, and so you share the abuse.

really good point!

[Charlie]

littlebear,

I know it hasn't been long in the making, but how's your decision treating you?