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Old 09-01-2009, 01:48 PM
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Best laugh I've had in awhile. Thank you ladies!
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Old 09-01-2009, 02:07 PM
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Where is Abbott's Glen? How do I get there?
Hah; I posted about it in "Outdoor Recreation". It's in Southern Vermont. It will come right up in a Google search.
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Old 09-03-2009, 07:19 PM
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Hahaha! Great posts!

Here's my little problem. I don't ask, "Does this make me look fat?" When I'm nervous about dressing up for something, I show him two earrings or two pairs of shoes and ask, "Which looks better?" or "Which one should I wear?" He gets frustrated and says he's a guy and doesn't know and whatever I pick will look good. Honestly, I know this, but the questions come from my insecurities about the situation I'm going into.

Oh well, more to work on to make myself a better person, and to quote GI Joe, "Knowing is half the battle." Hehe. I'm such a nerd.
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Old 09-03-2009, 07:35 PM
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He gets frustrated and says he's a guy and doesn't know and whatever I pick will look good. Honestly, I know this, but the questions come from my insecurities about the situation I'm going into.
He's giving you a straight-up honest answer. He IS a guy, and he probably really DOESN'T know, and whatever you pick really WILL look good to him.

So let him off the hook on this one, and either don't ask him what he thinks about the fashion choices, or ask him for a little reassurance, to help you deal directly with the insecurity issues. I'll bet he'd be really good at that.
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Old 09-03-2009, 08:01 PM
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He's giving you a straight-up honest answer. He IS a guy, and he probably really DOESN'T know, and whatever you pick really WILL look good to him.

So let him off the hook on this one, and either don't ask him what he thinks about the fashion choices, or ask him for a little reassurance, to help you deal directly with the insecurity issues. I'll bet he'd be really good at that.
Are you asking "Do I look good in this?" or "Does this look good on me?"

You could always go naked.
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Old 09-03-2009, 08:07 PM
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Are you asking "Do I look good in this?" or "Does this look good on me?"

You could always go naked.
It's more of "Which one looks better on me?" It's a choice issue for me. He ALWAYS tells me I look good when I dress up. But I very much like the going naked idea. Thanks.
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Old 09-03-2009, 08:32 PM
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I have just straight out asked hubby, "I have no clue what to wear, pick a shirt out for me." And he will. He has no fashion sense and is slightly color blind so it's a good thing that I wear jeans most of the time. But, yeah, he is the type who doesn't care what I'm wearing, I look good in anything to him...although he's not sure about burlap and blood larva, burlap yes, but those blood larva...maybe not. heh
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Old 09-03-2009, 11:45 PM
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He probably really doesn't have a clue! But if he thinks you look good no matter what, good.

My husband swings from not caring at all and saying I look good in anything to raiding the closet to pick the "perfect" outfit for me-usually something I think I look hideous in.

Nudity is looking better and better.
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Old 09-04-2009, 12:01 AM
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this is a case of where honesty is NOT the best policy!
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Old 09-04-2009, 12:17 AM
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this is a case of where honesty is NOT the best policy!
But it is a case where application of the techniques used in the OP come into play. Try it like this:

She: Sweetheart, tell me the truth, now. Is my butt fat?
He: *looks her up and down slowly and appreciatively* Oh, yeah, baby, that ass looks Pretty Hot And Tasty to me! that ass is PHAT, for sure.
*end of discussion.*

I am going on the assumption, of course, that most guys think most girls' butts look PHAT most of the time. And of course, your mileage may vary.

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