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Old 12-26-2010, 11:58 PM
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I got a martini book for Christmas and a shaker. How about something from there? Our friend mutual friend from the women's group fed me a choclate martini, YUM. So good! But dangerous for me as its vodka. Still, worth a try.
Those are good, as are apple martinis and crantinis. I also had a coffee flavoured one once which was awesome.

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Going with the Dr Pepper theme- My drink of choice is Dr pepper with Vanila vodka. You choose how much Tastes like cake batter.
That sounds good too!
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Old 01-05-2011, 11:28 PM
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Since nothing else is getting checked off my to do list today I may as well write a bit. Christmas was a bit of a whirlwind. Did some travelling, saw some family and old friends. As usual with these trips it was bittersweet. Going back to my home town reminds me of who I was and I know that I wouldn't be able to just go back to that life. It was a much simpler life, the one everyone expects you to have, the one people back home are still living. I briefly had the thought that I'd like it back. I'd much rather be me though, not just coasting through life doing what everyone expects. I'm happier since I've moved here and learnt so much more about who I am and what I want out of relationship, both friendship and romantic.

There was also the thought of this may be one of the last drama free times I have with my family. Since I'm not hiding anymore and have decided to answer any questions I get honestly at some point my being poly and bi is going to come out. There's an uncertainty of who is going to be accepting and who isn't. And that's just something that you can't know until it comes out (although I have my suspicions).

I'm just glad to be back home. I have a date night set for next week with RP. It's been a while, sometimes life just sneaks up on you! I'm very much looking forward to reconnecting.

I've been realizing lately that I have absolutely no idea what the status is with my husband and his girlfriend. I know that he hasn't seen her in quite a while. Yet again maybe it's just life getting in the way.
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Old 01-08-2011, 04:32 AM
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Glad you had a nice visit home. Upcoming dates are always exciting!
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Old 01-11-2011, 06:00 AM
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This hits very close to home for me. My husband is big on Non-Verbal communication, my problem is that I don't read his non-verbal very well or my inter-galactic translator is malfunctioning

It gave me an idea. I am going to post notes all over my house saying "This house is surrounded by an Anti-Telepathic Force Shield that blocks all telepathic powers. Please use other forms of communication, verbal and auditory are prefered."
lmao I am so going to do this.
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Old 01-11-2011, 07:39 PM
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I'm working on getting my competitive streak under control. Not everything has to be about having the most or being first. Am I happy with what I have in my life? Yes, absolutely. Do I honestly have the time/energy/effort to put into another relationship? No I don't. Which leaves me wondering why I feel the desire to be pursued. Is it just because others around me are being pursued?

Sometimes I feel all messed up in the head. On one hand I really want to know that I'm attractive and that there are people who want to be with me (regardless of if I want to be with them or not). And on the other hand if I'm approached by anyone where anytime in the first few meetings anything sexual is brought up I feel like all I am is a body to them and I write them off right away.

It's time to stop looking at what others have again and start to focus on what I have. I'm happy and satisfied with where I am and who I am, the rest of it just doesn't matter.
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Old 01-11-2011, 10:34 PM
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sounds like the same basic struggle that Maca is dealing with.
He has this real issue with wanting to "have someone too". Ironically-he's got girls chasing him around corners, but he doesn't see that as being comparable to me not having guys chasing me around the corners (I don't go anywhere TO get chased). He figures if I went somewhere, they'd be chasing so it's the same.
But-it bothers him that I have GG and he has "no one".

At the same time, everytime "someone" comes along who MIGHT be able to become "another one" over time..... he rushes into sex and then gets rid of them because "they only want me for sex."........

I keep tilting my head in curiosity. I can't understand why he can't just enjoy meeting people, getting to know them as people and then see what happens OVER TIME.

I met GG April 9th, 1993.
We spent 3-5 days a week together outside of work, and we worked together 5 days a week....

It was summer of 1995 before things took a turn towards sex.
That was a one time moment.

We continued to be friends and remain in close contact for years. It was 2001 or 2002 before our relationship turned romantic/sexual.

Seriously, that time of building a friendship IS the reason we're in love with each other (and not in lust).... because we fell in love with the deeper parts of who we are.


Ok-that wasn't meant to be a rant Derby.

On a side note-I'd be happy to tell you how beautiful you are while I'm visiting-and even though I'm bi-I don't want sex, so you can enjoy the attention without the concern that I want you for your body.

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Old 01-11-2011, 11:25 PM
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On a side note-I'd be happy to tell you how beautiful you are while I'm visiting-and even though I'm bi-I don't want sex, so you can enjoy the attention without the concern that I want you for your body.

I'll selflessly volunteer to be the relative stranger who lusts after your body (need pictures please) and then you'll have the best of both worlds!
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Old 01-11-2011, 11:27 PM
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I'll selflessly volunteer to be the relative stranger who lusts after your body (need pictures please) and then you'll have the best of both worlds!
You're on my Facebook, lots of pics there!
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Old 01-11-2011, 11:40 PM
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You're on my Facebook, lots of pics there!
*scrattles off to FB stalk Derby and ignore the person behind the pictures*
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Old 01-12-2011, 12:34 AM
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hehehe, there you go Derby-all your problems solved in the blink of an....... "oh damn that was hot"... I mean eye!

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