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Old 01-07-2011, 10:36 PM
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Default "Hold Me Tight"-Love demands the reassurance of touch......

Ok, I did say I was on a roll, any takers?
I think that this article makes perfect sense.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/artic.../hold-me-tight

Just considering how often we want one thing, but we say another in relationships.

Actually reading this part:

"Passion is like everything else: It ebbs and flows. But sex is always going to be boring if it's one-dimensional, cut off from emotional connection. On the other hand, if you're emotionally involved, sex has a hundred dimensions to it, and is as much play as passion.

I call this kind of secure sex "synchrony sex," where emotional openness and responsiveness, tender touch, and erotic exploration all come together. When partners have a secure emotional connection, physical intimacy can retain all of its initial ardor and creativity and then some. Lovers can be tender and playful one moment, fiery and erotic another. Securely attached partners can more openly express their needs and preferences and are more willing to experiment sexually with their lovers.

In a secure relationship, excitement comes not from trying to resurrect the novel moments of infatuated passion but from the risk involved in staying open in the moment-to-moment, here-and-now experience of physical and emotional connection. With this openness comes the sense that lovemaking with your partner is always a new adventure."


Made me think of Mono's descriptions of his relationship with RP.
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