Originally Posted by Seasnail
This may be way off topic, and shouldn't prevent you from looking into polyamory, but sometimes lack of libido is a symptom of a medical issue. It would be a shame to overlook that, if your girlfriend needed some help.
Totally agree. Before any serious decisions are made we are going to see a therapist - so hopefully that will pull out any real issues (unless it just is what it is). To be frank - if we just are not compatible sexually, then I would seriously consider going poly, deal with no intimate sex - or - break up with her. (thought just dealing with it would in the long run be bad for us I think)
She has gone to a doctor for it before and her testosterone levels are low - my hope is we can get this figured out :-/