New Friendship Anxiety

[XYZ123]

I'm somewhat similar to you Mono, but for different reasons. Part of me would like to have more close intimate friends (used in JRs way) but I tend to find myself being somewhat used by many. I have a personality which drives me to do all I can to make others happy. Unfortunately, many people happily take advantage of that. So I don't make many close friends anymore. Many people know alot about my life. I'm fine with being a wide open book. But that doesn't mean they're close as they don't have any real effect on my life. The few that I truly love and am really invested in are the few I trust to be in a reciprocal relationship with me.

I want to be a snot now and send you a friend request.

[vandalin]

"A friend in need is a friend indeed."

That would be me. I am that friend when they are in need. But for some strange reason, I don't feel that they would be very helpful to me when I am in need. Some, maybe. My Cajun, always. But most...I don't think so. Most I don't even get to talk to unless there is some drama going on in their life and need to talk to me.

In fact except for my husband, and hopefully now Elric, I don't really have any intimate (JR version) friends and don't really think that I have had since high school...maybe even middle school/junior high. Kinda sucks and gets lonely. Maybe I'm so used to being everyone else's "friend in need" that I can't show that sometimes I need? When you are expected to be the "strong" one, it's hard not to be.

I did try talking to one friend about some of my emotional problems, in hopes of making her feel better about her own and now every time she talks to me, she'll ask how I'm doing but it sounds more like she's just waiting for me to break down, not wanting me to but expecting it almost. Heh, if only she knew!

So Mono, I think I know what you mean. I kinda shy away from new, closer friendships even though I do crave them.

[MonoVCPHG]

Originally Posted by XYZ123

I want to be a snot now and send you a friend request.

That's pushing it.....

[NeonKaos]

Originally Posted by XYZ123

I want to be a snot now and send you a friend request.

This!

[redpepper]

Originally Posted by XYZ123

I want to be a snot now and send you a friend request.

Hey! You can send me one. I am totally unlike mono.... the more potential friends the better as far as I'm concerned.

[XYZ123]

Originally Posted by redpepper

Hey! You can send me one. I am totally unlike mono.... the more potential friends the better as far as I'm concerned.

As a secondary friend wanting to be friends with you while you already have several primaries, I feel I must ask Mono if this would be ok and if he needs some time to think it over. After all, coming into the friendship, I must move at the most uncomfortable person's pace.

Ah hell, on second thought, I'm sending a request. How do you like THAT Mono? Bwahahahaha.

[XYZ123]

Originally Posted by vandalin

"A friend in need is a friend indeed."

That would be me. I am that friend when they are in need. But for some strange reason, I don't feel that they would be very helpful to me when I am in need. Some, maybe.But most...I don't think so. Most I don't even get to talk to unless there is some drama going on in their life and need to talk to me.

So Mono, I think I know what you mean. I kinda shy away from new, closer friendships even though I do crave them.

You described what I was trying to get at so much better than I was able to. Thanks..

[MonoVCPHG]

Originally Posted by XYZ123

Ah hell, on second thought, I'm sending a request. How do you like THAT Mono? Bwahahahaha.

That's it!...I'm out Haha I'm such a brat

[XYZ123]

Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG

That's it!...I'm out Haha I'm such a brat

Check your messages. Hahaha. Don't hurt my feelings now....

[NeonKaos]

I was telling one of the other members here who I'm friends with now on FB that it's obvious which one Mono is, but I'm too intimidated to request him. He can always request me if he feels so inclined.