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Old 12-25-2010, 12:19 AM
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I believe that most men (anyone see that special word? "most"....not all) think that if a woman's on a dating site, she must be hard up and horny.
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Old 12-26-2010, 01:39 AM
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POF I got over ten messages a day from men sho just wanted to fuck me... la la la... took a lot of wading through and patience. I met Mono there though. He just wanted to fuck me too, but for some reason I was extra patient for him... go figure, it worked!
When I was PoFing, I had to put a "skill" testing question in my profile. I asked men to tell me what my favourite colour was, which I stated was green.

I was amazed that over half still did get it right.
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Ugh. I HATED the folks I was meeting on PoF.
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Old 12-26-2010, 02:06 AM
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Ugh. I HATED the folks I was meeting on PoF.
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Old 12-26-2010, 02:33 AM
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"Block" is your friend!
Oh - I know. I've since deleted my profile on there. I might try again from scratch - but there are so few flowers in those weeds...
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Old 12-26-2010, 02:38 AM
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POF, is a realy drag, unless you have tons of time and a good sense of humour.
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Oh, and BTW, I'm interested in seeing if poly works for me, and joined OKC to meet poly men, but I don't mention the words poly or polyamorous in my OKC profile. Women do have to be more cautious. There may be a chick on OKC for you, but it's just harder to find them.
As a poly guy located just outside of NYC who uses OKC I have a quick question.

If you don't mention poly or polyamorous in your profile, how will someone who is looking specifically for poly people find you?
A couple of ways. In my profile, I do mention something to the effect that I'm looking for a new way to be in relationships. Also, on OKC, people can see who checks your profile, so even though I don't have poly in mine, I do check profiles of poly people so they can see I've visited. If I'm really interested, I'll make them a favorite, or give their profile an award or something. Some of them look at me back, and do the same thing. This has led to conversations via the message system they have. I also make sure to answer some poly-oriented questions favorably so it shows up. If someone wants to do a little work, they get what I'm about. I don't like making it too easy, I guess. Online dating is all very new to me anyway, but the one poly guy with whom I've been corresponding is someone I contacted myself first, with a message. This seems to be working for me, as I am very cautious.
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POF, is a realy drag, unless you have tons of time and a good sense of humour.

I think you just described dating in general.
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I think you just described dating in general.
HA! I did really didn't I?!
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I've been on OKC now for quite a while and have had zero luck meeting anyone poly. 99% of the women on there seem to be looking for traditional relationships. :/ I met an awesome new friend on there, but thats about it.

Anyone know of any sites more geared toward poly or open relationships?

Its getting depressing to not know where to look. Seems like there has to be someone for me out there.... its just finding her..... grrr
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I hear you my brother. I know this may not help you at all but you are not alone. Unfortunately much that OKC is very poly-friendly we (sadly) can't create more poly or poly-curious women out there.

I & my wife had been back on OKC for about four months.
We both had separate profiles. She was getting about five emails a week from interested guys. I was getting about two a month.

Yes it sux. All I can suggest is join and attend local Poly social gatherings. They can be so much fun. And guess what! Not all the women there will fancy you but the vast majority of them are open to guys like you and I.

I recommend them.

I wish you all the best I really do.

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