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View Poll Results: How do you view sex?
I'm a MAN...and I HAVE TO HAVE SEX to feel love 9 32.14%
I', a WOMAN...and I HAVE TO HAVE SEX to feel love 13 46.43%
I'm a MAN...and I could care less if I have sex or not. 3 10.71%
I'm a WOMAN...and I could care less if I have sex or not. 3 10.71%
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Old 12-25-2010, 03:38 AM
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My personal observation: As a women, the more I get sex, the more I crave it and when there are long breaks with no sex, the easier it is not to have it (some of my friends have said the same thing). When I have a long break without sex, I have to mentally phsyc myself up to welcome it again. Of course, this now adds a guilt factor because I feel that I should want sex, but I'm not in "the mood". I have to override my mood and just do it. Once things gets started again, I'm back to craving it.

Now no sex and no masterbation - I just get down right grumpy, bitchy and irritable. It's as if orgasams keep my brain chemicals balanced. Too bad it took me so long to realize this.
If I masturbate, I crave sex.
The more sex I get, the more sex I want.
If I know I won't be getting it-I absolutely don't masturbate, cause it's just going to make me crave sex.

I don't need sex to feel loved, but I love sex so I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone monogomously that I couldn't have sex with-I don't think I could function that way-ever.
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Old 12-25-2010, 03:44 AM
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Interesting. Masturbation doesn't make me want sex more or less. It's like a totally separate entity for me.
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More important than I'd dare to admit, but less important than open communication. Damn, I'm demanding.
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Old 12-25-2010, 08:18 AM
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I'm a MAN...and I HAVE TO HAVE SEX to feel love
I', a WOMAN...and I HAVE TO HAVE SEX to feel love
I'm a MAN...and I could care less if I have sex or not.
I'm a WOMAN...and I could care less if I have sex or not.
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Ok, I am one of the people who view sex as a necessity. I feel, that without sex, a relationship is a simple friendship. There is no love in it.

Please...Keep in mind that this is just how I feel....Not that I am trying to say that is the only way.



When my wife and I go for a period of time longer than 2 weeks without sex, I feel very depressed and very distant. I feel like she is looking for it elsewhere, and I'm not good enough or whatever.

She tells me that, she could take it or leave it, when it comes to sex. She doesn't "need" sex. I've heard this from other women also in reference to sex....Not just sex with ME, but just in reference to having sex...period....


So, I ask...What are your views toward sex?
k, I'm finding this really hard to answer. It seems very monogamous orientated and I can't seem to break from that. I can not have sex with some and feel the same closeness and intimate connection with someone as I do someone I do have sex with.

Is sex important? Damned rights it is, but not with everyone and anyone. I can be attracted and physically capable in terms of my body reacting, but it is not necassary to the relationship to get off by fucking. On the other hand, in other relationships it really is and adds ten fold to the connection and depth I have. So yes to both questions really... I think?

I seem to be getting it wrong some how. could you give me more info?
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Old 12-25-2010, 08:41 AM
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I can't tick any of the boxes.....

I am a woman. I don't need sex to feel love from someone. But I do care very much about having sex! I can never understand people who say it's just not important to them, but each to their own.

I also take slight exception to the idea of a friendship not being love. My loves are and have been based on a deep and vital friendship first and foremost, and there are several 'just friends' whom I love very very deeply, more so than some people I have sex with where the connection is 90% sexual and just casually friends.

So here's my own little box to tick: I am a woman, who can and does variously seperate love, friendship and sex in different circumstances (ie, just love/friendship, or just friendship/sex), but find others when all three collide to be the most wonderful amazing fulfilling relationships in my life!! That ok?
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I can't tick any of the boxes.....

I am a woman. I don't need sex to feel love from someone. But I do care very much about having sex! ......<snip>

I also take slight exception to the idea of a friendship not being love. My loves are and have been based on a deep and vital friendship first and foremost, and there are several 'just friends' whom I love very very deeply, more so than some people I have sex with
this! thank you pixie for saying this part better than I could. Tired I guess
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Old 12-25-2010, 03:43 PM
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The answer to this one for me is pretty easy. No sex, no love. Period. Of course, I'm biased as sex is the primary reason I get involve in relationships at all. For me, all of my other needs can be fulfilled by friends and the occasional cuddle party without the extreme mental, spiritual, and financial risk that comes with a romantic relationship.
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Old 12-25-2010, 04:07 PM
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I can't tick any of the boxes.....

I am a woman. I don't need sex to feel love from someone. But I do care very much about having sex! I can never understand people who say it's just not important to them, but each to their own.
What she said.

I go through long dry spells - and I go through spells where W tries to hide from me. Neither changes my ability to love him or be in love with him.

Nor does sex define who I love.

Right now I'm in a dry-ish spell that is ramping up to a spell of voracious appetite... I'm tempted to warn him
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Old 12-25-2010, 04:19 PM
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I can't tick any of the boxes.....

I am a woman. I don't need sex to feel love from someone.
Then the appropriate box for you to click, would be the last one, which says "I'm a woman and I could care less if I have sex or not". I mean, you almost quoted it when you stated it above. No idea why the confusion.

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this! thank you pixie for saying this part better than I could. Tired I guess
Since you agree, then the same would go for you too RP.

Not trying to be offending in any way either ladies. Just stating something which, to me, is obvious.



I also stated at the end that there would obviously be other options, and I apologized for not being smart enough to include everyone's choices. I simply couldn't think of them all. LOL I mean, there are about as many ways of showing romantic love, as there are people. There's only 10 choices possible. I tried to keep it simple and broadly generalized.

So, you either have to have sex in order to complete romantic love, or you don't. I, personally, do.
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Old 12-25-2010, 04:27 PM
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What she said.

I go through long dry spells - and I go through spells where W tries to hide from me. Neither changes my ability to love him or be in love with him.

Nor does sex define who I love.

Right now I'm in a dry-ish spell that is ramping up to a spell of voracious appetite... I'm tempted to warn him
Actually, I think thta you would have to tick the one which says "I'm, a WOMAN...and I HAVE TO HAVE SEX to feel love". The reason? Because you said you have dry spells...which indicates that there are times when you feel you DO need it. So yeah...you would tick the one I said.
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