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Old 12-23-2010, 02:45 AM
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Actually Somegeezer, I`ve never had any men in my life, that care for me, who haven`t offered a MFM type dealio. All are straight in orientation too. They are givers and pleasers, and enjoy fulfilling my fantasies. It can be a very loving , giving, act.


Funny thing though, outside of the bed I am not comfortable doing the affection-between-all scenario. I`d just rather not.

I`m working on it, as I realize I need to find some compromise in this area. So I will follow this topic with interest.
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I find it unfortunate that Maca does not enjoy seeing you and GG being so close. I find all the cuddling up on the sofa thing extremely satisfying. Is GG the same towards Maca in anything you and maca do together?

The sex thing doesn't seem all that uncommon really. What are the chances that you would find 2 men who would even want to be next to each other with their bits and pieces out? Never mind actually being able to cooperate when doing something like that. I think if it were females, it would be slightly easier for them to be there with each other, but I'm sure just as hard when deciding who should be doing what. I mean that is just my personal conclusion by the way people talk about it to me. I've never had experience with either situation.
GG doesn't have the same sense of "entitlement", so no, he doesn't have issues with seeing Maca and I together. He does however get very self-conscious doing ANYTHING with me in front of Maca.
As for the sex together thing-it's not too hard to "keep 'em separated". In a previous relationship MFM threesomes were a fairly common occurence for me. Both men were VERY VERY straight, they just took turns so to speak with any given body part that they were wanting to attend to.
As for with women, I've done FMF as well, with Maca even and it's not difficult for me to do that either, again, just a matter of knowing what you do or do not wish to do and allowing the other people to do the same.
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Old 12-23-2010, 03:20 AM
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They are givers and pleasers, and enjoy fulfilling my fantasies. It can be a very loving , giving, act.
Can we give that a name?

"what are you?"
"I'm a giver & pleaser."
"Ooooohhhhh! I LOVE those types!"

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Old 12-23-2010, 03:21 AM
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Actually Somegeezer, I`ve never had any men in my life, that care for me, who haven`t offered a MFM type dealio. All are straight in orientation too. They are givers and pleasers, and enjoy fulfilling my fantasies. It can be a very loving , giving, act.


Funny thing though, outside of the bed I am not comfortable doing the affection-between-all scenario. I`d just rather not.

I`m working on it, as I realize I need to find some compromise in this area. So I will follow this topic with interest.
I figured someone would have a lot of experience with the opposite. It's cool that you have found men like that too. I'm not one of them personally. I can admire a good looking man, but I do not want to be joining in with sex. I wouldn't mind sleeping in the same bed though. Say I was in a V with a female hinge [I think I'm using the correct terms!] and She wanted to sleep in the same bed with the both of us. I'd have no problem.

I would be comofortable with showing affection outside. I couldn't care about people looking and feeling weird about it. Even if i had multiple partners. What business is it of the public? Is is my happiness and the happiness of my partners that matters. If THEY were uncomfortable with it is the only time I would stop myself.

I am very interested in this topic myself as you might have seen. =P It's enjoyable to talk about.
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Can we give that a name?

"what are you?"
"I'm a giver & pleaser."
"Ooooohhhhh! I LOVE those types!"

As opposed to the giver and unpleasers.

"How thoughtful... Too bad your thoughts did not correlate with mine. Take it back."

*Hides and prepares for it to go over your heads?*
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I would love the opportunity to SLEEP curled up between the guys-but somehow that is even MORE difficult. It's easy enough to have sex without touching the third party or having them touch you.
But if you are cuddly-it's damn difficult to sleep without touching and that one is beyond comfort zones for my guys.
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You're funny.
I like easygoing and willing to joke around even in serious conversations type people.

I'm right with you also on the "I don't give a shit what people think, if I want to hold both hands in public I will" attitude.

I'd say "fuck 'em" but it just comes out a little wrong in light of the context.
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Old 12-23-2010, 03:34 AM
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I would love the opportunity to SLEEP curled up between the guys-but somehow that is even MORE difficult. It's easy enough to have sex without touching the third party or having them touch you.
But if you are cuddly-it's damn difficult to sleep without touching and that one is beyond comfort zones for my guys.
Yeah, I don't mind all the cuddliness and stuff. That's why I wouldn't mind being in same beds. I don't think I'd particularly mind if they really wanted to go at it with me there either. If I really need to sleep, I will anyways. I sleep through anything. =P It'll probably be the death of me though. House is burning down and the most I do is throw my quilt off in my sleep, so I can cool down. =P

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You're funny.
I like easygoing and willing to joke around even in serious conversations type people.

I'm right with you also on the "I don't give a shit what people think, if I want to hold both hands in public I will" attitude.

I'd say "fuck 'em" but it just comes out a little wrong in light of the context.
I'm glad it was found somewhat amusing. I find it hard to tell when my humour will go down well. >.<

Haha. Certainly wouldn't want to "fuck 'em". But yes, I agree, they should just mind their own business and concentrate on making their own relationships work, rather than judging me on mine, were I in one. =] Even in all the mono relationships I've been in, there is always someone with a disgusted face when you show your affection in public.
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Sleeping between both gents is definitely a fantasy of mine. Given the number of pets and the fact that we only have a double bed means that this one will have to wait, if it's to come to fruition.

Like you, LR, I have no interest in (sexually) having both men at once, as their lovemaking styles are different and I wouldn't be able to relax for fear of someone getting their feelings hurt, or what have you.

I would love to be part of a FMF though, whether it's just sex, or something more significant. I had a few encounters with a friend and her BF (both straight). When it worked, we focussed solely on him, and it was pretty awesome. Unfortuantely, it mostly didn't work.

Cuddle piles on the couch effing ROCK, especially if I'm sick or down. The loving energy is amazing.

Last night was, now that I think about, the first time the three of us held hands in public. We were at a concert. In our seats, I kind of giggled to myself, because I wondered what the people behind must think. When we were leaving the concert, I wasn't concerned about what people would think of us holding hands in terms of our relationship structure. I was actually more worried they'd be annoyed that we were walking three across in a relatively crowded area.
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Old 12-23-2010, 04:59 PM
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I was actually more worried they'd be annoyed that we were walking three across in a relatively crowded area.
I admit to being one of those who gets annoyed at this actually. =P I have places to go and don't appreciate it all that much. =P
I remember all the girls did that with their friends back in school. Taking up the whole corridor and walking reeeeeeeally slowly. I was often late to my lessons because of this.
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