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Old 08-27-2009, 07:03 PM
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Your best gift to those you love is your own happiness.
I can attest to the fact of this. My husband, Cajun, and I have the same libido problem. Mine is terrible and he's always ready to go. When Elric and I started talking after all these years, my happiness was visibly altered. People actually commented about how much happier I seemed lately and my libido soared...which I shared with my HUSBAND. Ok, so Elric is 400 miles away, but just the happiness that I felt and feel now that we are starting to get our friendship back on track has helped me with my mood which in turn helps my libido which in turn make Cajun very happy.

Happiness = better libido = more sex = more happiness...it's a nice little circle.

*edit* I would also like to add that Cajun and I spend about 90-95% of our free time together. I hate when he has to go out of town for work, which luckily is very rarely. I used to try to encourage him to do things on his own and I would try to do things on my own as I don't want to increase my slight co-dependency problems (part of my anxiety issues) but we still end up doing most things together.
Life is about the journey and not the destination,
so what better way to know life
than to wander all the roads and paths set before you.

Last edited by vandalin; 08-27-2009 at 07:10 PM.
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