Originally Posted by SourGirl
There is an asshole in every crowd. Usually plenty of them, too.
So far, experience has shown that the crowd is all a-holes with one or possibly two decent guys mixed in for good measure. Current ratio for us: 25 a-holes just trying to get laid...to....zero decent guys looking for an actual poly relationship.
This is just our experience though.
And this ratio is not to say that my wife has SLEPT with them....we have screened all but one out. The one, got past the screening process by actually going through the motions of a relationship at first. Went out on multipul dates....courted my wife....etc. Then, they slept together a couple times, and he just started making himself scarce and unavailable. The whole time, he was not actively persuing my wife, but my wife was persuing him. She pointed out that she chased ME when we were dating, and that he was just quiet. I told her I was just concerned and let it go. Then, after they had slept together a few times, he just started ignoring her texts and calls. He refused to speak with her. She was hurt....but she got over it. She came to the realization that guys are generally
the same. They are wired to obtain pussy. at all cost. If a woman wants a relationship, they'll fake it until they get the punanny. As much and as varying as possible. Now, not ALL guys are like this. I'm not, for example. Most of the guys, who are active on this forum, are probably not. But...generally speaking....they are.
So in a sea of a-holes, there will be a few....VERY few....quality mackerels.
While not as rare as the elusive unicorn, they are still few and far between.