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Old 12-19-2010, 12:00 PM
Yuki Yuki is offline
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Default So I need some help...

Okay so here's the problem, I have a boyfriend. But I have been talking to another guy for about 2 years now. And he has always been in a relationship. And now that he is out of it he wants to be with me. Now he knows I have a boyfriend and he is totally fine with it. He said as long as he can have his own separate time with me then he will be happy. And I have no problem with that. Its just my boyfriend that I have now that worries me.
For all intensive purposes we will call the boyfriend I have now Yuri. And the boyfriend that I want to add to my relationship Topher. (Oddly enough they both actually have the same first and middle name.)
Any way Yuri and I have known each other for a really long time now for I think it is 6 yrs and we just started going out not to long ago. So the relationship is still in the infant stage. But Iíve known him for so long that it doesnít seem to really matter (if that makes any sense at all). And I mean I care for him I really do, its just when I look at Topher I can't help but drive myself crazy over wanting him as well. Because with in the two years of knowing Topher I can honestly say that I love him. And this is where I get confused.
Don t get me wrong Iíve always been the type of person that takes what he wants regardless of the consequences, and in the end usually ends up with nothing, but for that brief moment I am satisfied. But this time I don't want to loose it all and end up with nothing. I want to keep them both. But Iím not so sure if Yuri would even give it a thought.
He tends to keep an open mind about everything. But I'm not sure how he would feel about this. Especially with it being so early in the relationship. And I'm not really sure how to go about it either. I mean I know that if he agreed there would be ground rules and all that stuff.
But I'm not sure how to define it...
Cause I know this may sound ignorant and all. But I have no problem with dating them both at the same time. And I have no problem if they want to have another partner. I just donít want them dating each other. Like I want to be the only connecting link between the two. I have no problem if they wanna get to know each other even. Just I want there affections for myself and do not want to see them exchange affections between each other. Dose that make me a bad person?
I don't know anymore I really don't so I was hoping to be able to put the situation up on here and maybe get some help.

Please and thank you,
The Confused Elf,
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