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Old 12-18-2010, 01:13 PM
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Default Is this weird, or am I just a pervert?

If you read my blog about simultaneous NRE you can get more background about my gf's new bf. Short version, this bf, M, has a gf too, of 3 years. They are in a Domme/sub relationship. My gf is supposed to be sub to M.

Here's the part that I am struggling with. They've had 4 or 5 dates so far, and M's gf has been on every date! And they're allegedly not interested in a unicorn or a triad relationship, it's supposed to be my gf and M, not all 3 of them.

So, they hang out and M's and his Lady's apartment, go out to eat, this afternoon they're all going to Tron together. Whenever they are at the apartment, they all hang out in the living room together. My gf and her M have not had sex yet, but they kiss a little and cuddle a lot. The gf just never leaves them alone! And M never just takes my gf and swoops her off to the guest room for some private couple time.

The thing is, my gf is fine with this slow pace, and M's gf being there. She says partly because she has me for release, she's OK with the sexual tension and flirting and constant stroking M gives her to her hair and body. In fact, she's enjoying it.

However, it's kinda driving me crazy because I move much faster in relationships. Also this is only the 2nd man my gf has dated since we've been together, and I am on tenterhooks imagining my reaction to when gf and M finally do have sex. And I am just suspicious of M's gf's motives in never leaving them alone. If I were her, I might hang out for a while, but then go to the computer room or leave the house altogether, so gf and M can fool around on the couch, which might naturally lead to sex. I can see how M might feel self conscious to just take my gf off to the bedroom, it seems so obvious.

Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 61) loving Pixie (poly, F, 39) since January 2009, living together since 2013
"Master," (mono, M, 36), Pixie's Dom for 3+ years
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